View Full Version : Lie and steal
yentel12345
Apr 30, 2011, 04:26 PM
My child has HDHD. He will turn 11 this month. He steal, and lie. Wrote on a public building walls, and lied about it.(camera showed him). Stole few things from 3 different friends.( I asked why, :he wanted it very much, after denying it for a while) now he is punished, can't go to friends. But what is next?
kcomissiong
Apr 30, 2011, 09:13 PM
What is HDHD?
jenniepepsi
Apr 30, 2011, 09:40 PM
Pretty common for ADHD kids. I went through it myself as a teen and preteen.
The BEST thing you can do, is catch him stealing, and call the cops.
Thankfully the school caught me when I was 14 almost 15. (granted the REASON I stole money from the lockers is because my mother wouldn't feed me because I didn't clean the kitchen right so I was hungry and didn't have any money for food) but it makes NO difference the reason, stealing is WRONG, and the cops certainly got through to me. I was handcuffed, booked, and stood in front of the judge (scariest thing in my life) and I cleaned up my act and NEVER stole again (after I completed my community service and probation lol)
ADHD children respond VERY well to tough love done right. My parents left out the love part. But please, make his boundarys VERY VERY clear, and make sure he knows there are NO exceptions to the rules, and there are absolute no buts about it consequenses.
Kayla1234567890
May 4, 2011, 02:21 PM
I think I have ADHD. I am 13 years old, and I am very aggressive to my mom. If I were you I think I would talk to him seriously. Tell him he is almost (kinda) an adult and he has to be responsible for his actions. If he can't fess up to it, then just act like it never happened. If he does fess up to it, tell him that he shouldn't do it again, if he does there will be sevevre punishment, and that you are happy that you two had this talk. What ever you do, do not yell or scream at him. My mom does this to me and it does not do anyone justice. He may be doing this for attention, because he doesn't know what else to do, or out of anger, or just because he was told to. If it was out of anger, you need to constantly keep an eye out and talk to him everyday about how his day went and if anything made his day worse, and if he was doing it for attention, yet again talk to him everyday, and if he was doing because someone told him to, tell him he can't hang out with that kid or children. He needs to mostly know that you are there for him at all times. Hope this helps