NonExistent
Apr 29, 2011, 09:43 AM
But I'd like my own, personal advice. Reading other people's situations just isn't cutting it for me.
So here's my story, from square one. (Sorry in advance if I'm long winded)
I Met this girl back in January 2010 through her bestfriends That I went to school with. At the time, I one of her he's friends liked me, but I wasn't interested in any kind of way. Anyway we all hung out together, my group of friends, and them, and eventually one of my friends ended up liking my current ex. She also wasn't interested. So to cut this half of the story short, me and my current ex became interested in each other, our friends felt betrayed & stopped talking to us, we started going out in March 2010 and began smothering the hell out of each other since we had no other friends.
Anyway 6 months into our relationship things changed. One of her old home girls from high school started hitting her up saying she needed to come out with her & have fun... Live life you know? I didn't think anything of it.. In fact I encouraged her to go out with her friend to keep things right with us. Well she did that, & suddenly became cold. When I asked her what the deal was, she said she doesn't know how she feels & she felt we rushed into things. I agreed but did everything I could to keep us together. I failed, and we broke up. I initiated a non verbal no contact rule (I just didn't talk to her at all) for about two days & she contacted me wondering why I stopped talking to her. We got back together & everything started back the same way.. No friends... Seeing each other day in & day out aside from work. A week Our 1 year anniversary (March 2011) her friend popped up again... Wanting to hang out... Go to parties... & all of that other stuff. Of course I said OK, but in the back of my mind I knew what was going to happen. She went cold on me again... & decided to take a break 1 day before Our anniversary. She had the same excuse this time, not knowing how she felt, being bored with each other, etc... Oh & not to mention we began to bump heads a lot since we seen each other every day... but nothing anyone wouldn't expect. Anyway after this break started I initiated ANOTHER non verbal no contact. And she came back the next day saying we can still talk things.. She just needs her space. I talked her into getting back together by admitting some of our flaws in our relationship & offering some ways we could fix them.. I.E. Get our own friends... Etc. & we did that... But I guess in her mind that wasn't enough. Since she's been going out with her friend she's been bumping into old high school people reminiscing I guess, & that coldness came back AGAIN. This time she barely talked to me for like a week... & whenever I tried to talk to her or make plans with her.. She was busy. I pretty much saw the break up coming. Yesterday she finally she hit me with the "we need to talk" via text message. So I called her & said what's up & she ended it with a simple... " we need to be done, no breaks or anything. I'm just not in it anymore". So I simply said okay, & she said okay, we said goodbye & hung up. She changed her Facebook stat to single & I did the same. I apologized to my old friends for being anti social & a **** & went out to dinner with them last night like old times.
Anyway... I really miss her & I want her back. I feel that since we know what messed us up in the first place... Why doesn't she want to work on fixing that? She completely gave up all of a sudden. I've once again initiated the non verbal No Contact & haven't heard from her. She's still my friend on Facebook and twitter but I'm leaving her alone... Hoping she will come back.
My question to everyone here is, do you think there is hope? Or am I just a stubborn fool who can't take a break up.
Also we are turning 21 next month.. & we were planning a trip to Mexico... So I purchased a passport last week, now this happens. ***? Please help. All comments, concerns, and questions are greatly appreciated.
So here's my story, from square one. (Sorry in advance if I'm long winded)
I Met this girl back in January 2010 through her bestfriends That I went to school with. At the time, I one of her he's friends liked me, but I wasn't interested in any kind of way. Anyway we all hung out together, my group of friends, and them, and eventually one of my friends ended up liking my current ex. She also wasn't interested. So to cut this half of the story short, me and my current ex became interested in each other, our friends felt betrayed & stopped talking to us, we started going out in March 2010 and began smothering the hell out of each other since we had no other friends.
Anyway 6 months into our relationship things changed. One of her old home girls from high school started hitting her up saying she needed to come out with her & have fun... Live life you know? I didn't think anything of it.. In fact I encouraged her to go out with her friend to keep things right with us. Well she did that, & suddenly became cold. When I asked her what the deal was, she said she doesn't know how she feels & she felt we rushed into things. I agreed but did everything I could to keep us together. I failed, and we broke up. I initiated a non verbal no contact rule (I just didn't talk to her at all) for about two days & she contacted me wondering why I stopped talking to her. We got back together & everything started back the same way.. No friends... Seeing each other day in & day out aside from work. A week Our 1 year anniversary (March 2011) her friend popped up again... Wanting to hang out... Go to parties... & all of that other stuff. Of course I said OK, but in the back of my mind I knew what was going to happen. She went cold on me again... & decided to take a break 1 day before Our anniversary. She had the same excuse this time, not knowing how she felt, being bored with each other, etc... Oh & not to mention we began to bump heads a lot since we seen each other every day... but nothing anyone wouldn't expect. Anyway after this break started I initiated ANOTHER non verbal no contact. And she came back the next day saying we can still talk things.. She just needs her space. I talked her into getting back together by admitting some of our flaws in our relationship & offering some ways we could fix them.. I.E. Get our own friends... Etc. & we did that... But I guess in her mind that wasn't enough. Since she's been going out with her friend she's been bumping into old high school people reminiscing I guess, & that coldness came back AGAIN. This time she barely talked to me for like a week... & whenever I tried to talk to her or make plans with her.. She was busy. I pretty much saw the break up coming. Yesterday she finally she hit me with the "we need to talk" via text message. So I called her & said what's up & she ended it with a simple... " we need to be done, no breaks or anything. I'm just not in it anymore". So I simply said okay, & she said okay, we said goodbye & hung up. She changed her Facebook stat to single & I did the same. I apologized to my old friends for being anti social & a **** & went out to dinner with them last night like old times.
Anyway... I really miss her & I want her back. I feel that since we know what messed us up in the first place... Why doesn't she want to work on fixing that? She completely gave up all of a sudden. I've once again initiated the non verbal No Contact & haven't heard from her. She's still my friend on Facebook and twitter but I'm leaving her alone... Hoping she will come back.
My question to everyone here is, do you think there is hope? Or am I just a stubborn fool who can't take a break up.
Also we are turning 21 next month.. & we were planning a trip to Mexico... So I purchased a passport last week, now this happens. ***? Please help. All comments, concerns, and questions are greatly appreciated.