Hi, I'm a senior in high school. I have this friend, which is in a relationship now, that I've known for 5 years. I love her but I hope that I'm not in denial or "sprung" as my classmates call it. I have had feelings for her for almost a year now. I was scared to tell her until recently I told her & she was shocked but she didn't really do anything.

Earlier in the year I've talked to her, & asked her will she give me a chance, but she gave me a mixed answer as in to say yes & no. She said yes because of my attitude & my good traits like "you're cool as heck, a nice person, fun to be around. but she said no because she never seen the relationship side of me & that because of our friendship we might not take it serious. She knew that it would work out but she said "what if the friendship suffers from it?"

As I read the other articles that you all have posted about friends in relationships, I thought of myself as being too selfish for my own good. I talked to her today about how she & I feel.
I asked her friends to ask "If she's interested in me?" or "Does she like me?" in the past. They say that she says "No, I only like him as a friend." every time but earlier in the year she was giving me signs that a girl would only give if she likes a guy. As I was talking to her, I apologized for my actions & I hoped that it didn't upset her.

I told her that I didn't know that she wasn't interested in me [which she never told me at all]. She reply's by saying "It's not like that, but I don't know how the relationship will be." I asked her "well, why don't we give it a go?" She looks at me kind of curiously as if to think about it. I reply by saying "Do you think that it'll break our friendship?" she said "no". I also asked "Am I you're type?" She says "You're cool." but I don't know if she is dodging me or serious? I know that it won't break our friendship." She then says "I see us as being friends for right now." I now feel like the bad guy but she stated that " I was going to be her new BF after she breaks up with her current BF a few days back.

I don't know if she's lying, trying to comfort me, or is she serious?
[PLEASE HELP ME?]

Its asking a lot to go from friends to romance, especially after a break up.

But if you have been waiting for a year for a chance to be with her, then I wish you luck, and a lot of it.

I think you put her in a very uncomfortable position my friend, sorry.

First of she is in a relationship, which means that you should respect that and back off immediately. Second, as far as knowing why she is saying that things that she has told you, only she knows. Third, it doesn't sound like she wants to be with you as anything more than a friend. As far as the "signals" you think you are receiving from her, unless you are a psychologist, I suggest that you don't make assumptions about what people's actions or word choice are trying to tell you.

Good luck,
Javi

You wouldn't be writing to this forum unless you really love her. What you shouldn't have done, is tell her that you love her. You should have waited a bit longer and see how see how things develop, see if IS SHE THE ONE YOU DESERVE or ARE YOU THE ONE.

Waiting a year is a bit long I must say but as you mentioned she's in a relationship, so the best is to back-off, not from your friendship but from the idea of being her boyfriend.

One thing that I'm sure of is, she's changed. Her attitude, talks and in many more ways. She kind of tries to avoid you but in the end comes back to you, AND is because you're close to her.

This might sound quite harsh to you but that's the best. If you're not catching my point, I'll get it straightened out.

1. She's in a relationship.
Obviously she'll need support,a friend, a close one to whom she can open herself up. An ear, if that makes it easier.

2. She ain't considering the idea of dumping her boyfriend who she's known "maybe" before you.

If you think you'll be happy being in a relationship with her, then you're wrong Sir.

SHE DUMPS HER BOYFRIEND TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU, OK. WHAT GUARANTEES SHE WON'T EVER DUMP YOU FOR SOMEONE ELSE??

That makes a point.

Maybe she's NOT that kind of girl but maybe she IS.
You can't predict anyone's actions or read their mind..

Think of it. Give yourself some breathing space.

It's always hard to let go but tuning back at the memories is harder. If you really think she's the one then go for it. We're here..

[ read my questions on my profile, you'll get an idea of what I'm talking about. ]