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leapyear
Apr 26, 2011, 09:35 AM
I started talking to this guy 6 months ago on a dating site. WE talked everyday vis texts, phone calls and skype - all day everyday! (around work) Eventually we decided to meet, and I went over to Dublin (I live in UK) to meet him! (After 4 months of chatting etc)
Everything was perfect whilst I was there, he was such a gentleman! When it came to leaving, I got very upset, and I know he did too, but wad hiding it for my sake I think.
Anyway, since being back, contact isn't as much. Although he has reassured me that there isn't a problem.
He used to call me beautiful, and sweetheart etc etc, now he only refers to me as "Hun"! Something has changed between us...
Anyway, last week I was on FB and on my home page was notification that he liked some girls profile on a dating site - I joined this site out of curiosity, and found that he was a member on there and had been on there very recent.
I kicked off, and told him that I would not being going back to Dublin the following week and he was obviously still wanting to see/meet other girls.
He responded saying that he never even opended half the mails he got on there etc.. And that I always find fault in everything etc, and with the distance, I had to learn to chill out as our "relationship" wasn't a normal one.
Anyway, I asked him if he wanted to end it and go our separate ways - he ummm'd and aaa'd. I then asked if he wanted to be just friends, and he said that would be the bare minimum we'd ever be - then changed the subject and everything went back to normal so I assumed that we were giving it another go.
Anyway, we always talk everyday. But I have not heard from him for almost two days now, and he has switched both phones off so I can't get hold of him. I had a delivery report last night, but then he switched phone back off, and he never replied.
Does this sound like he's finished it? Or should I just wait and see? I'm soooo confused!

I wish
Apr 26, 2011, 10:01 AM
Sounds like he's trying to let you down easy. If you were on the same page, you wouldn't have so much confusion and hesitation about his feelings for you.

I would say that you had a great 6 months of getting to know each other online and when you met in person, you had the opportunity to get closer. But unfortunately, things didn't progress forward in your relationship.

Unfortunately, it sounds like it's finished to me.

leapyear
Apr 26, 2011, 10:06 AM
Thank you - I did wonder this myself! He told me the other day he thinks the world of me! But, that doesn't mean he wants to be with me I guess! Thanks for your answer :)

redhed35
Apr 26, 2011, 10:44 AM
Cut to the chase with him, sounds as if he's trying to end it and hoping you will.

For me, joining the dating site and not opening any of the mails is a load of crap, in saying that, you were not yet in a serious relationship only in the 'getting to know you' phase.

Plenty more guys out there, but I think this one is done.

Move on.

talaniman
Apr 26, 2011, 05:35 PM
I will admit my confusion in this online dating thing and getting attached that way. I mean if someone is talking to you online, then they can also be talking to others is my thinking, and cannot see how any one can expect a dating site hook up to stop hooking up online without a specific promise being made. But I guess that's just me though, to old to get it.

For sure he isn't as interested as he was before, for whatever reason, and you do yourself a grave disservice by putting a lot of hope in the basket of a stranger you have met only once. I don't care how great that only date went, your hopes are a bit to high, and you better back up, and get the balance back in your life.

Again just my opinion, you have focused a lot of feelings on a fellow who hasn't proved he deserves it, or that his actions and words match. You had your fun, now back up and protect yourself.

Fr_Chuck
Apr 26, 2011, 07:23 PM
First what was if any the level of commitment ? I mean if you were merely chatting or dating online, were both of your free and even now still free to date and chat with others.

When I dated I often dated two or three ladies until I was ready to settle it on one.

Sounds like he is still looking and perhaps wanted to also date you also or after the visit real life was not the same as online