We love each other very much.Really want to get married.Parents are not accepting due to horoscope problem.He is still working now.I want to wait for him for a couple of years before getting married.He is telling not to wait for him and destroy my life.But I cannot think about marrying any other guy.I wanted him to allow me to wait for him and try again.He is not very much willing to go against his parents right now.But I am still hoping that our relation could work if we try hard.I don't know how to convince him.Please give me a solution.

Don't try to convince him, he may end up resenting it if he feels that strongly about going against his parents.

Are you in school or working? Instead of waiting for him, why not focus on what you are doing and see what time brings. It would be foolish to put your life on hold, in hopes that things might change with him.

Maybe things will change in time, but do now what you can in your education or work to secure your own future goals.

You don't want to be with someone that you had to convince to be with you. You want them to be with you because it is something they want to do.

If he is telling you to move on, then that is what you need to do.

It is a red flag that he isn't willing to work with you to continue the relationship or to attempt to change his parents' minds. It shows that if you did marry him it would because of them not because he cares about you. It would mean that they are always first in his life. After reading other threads by women who are second to their husbands' families, I do not think you be happy in that situation.

You don't have to think about marrying another man right now. It is too soon and you need time to let go and heal.

Good luck.

How can I think about any other guy? Iam not sure if I can change my mind.I know I sound a bit stubborn.Sometimes I feel really depressed that I am not able to concentrate on anything.My parents told that they will not think about any marriage for me now.But I still don't know what to do.I want to concentrate on my work.Sometimes I am just not able to.

Don't think about other men right now. Give yourself time to heal and to be ready to move on.

Healing takes time. It isn't something that you decide today and you are healed tomorrow. Like a physical injury, it will get better over time as you accept that the relationship is over.

Staying busy, mentally and physically, can help. Getting involved in hobbies or other interests can help you redirect your thoughts and meet new people. Enjoy time with your friends.

Don't contact him. Don't give yourself false hope that he will change his mind.

It may not seem like it, but you will find you are stronger than you think you are.

I am thankful for your reply.I had to say one more thing.When the horoscope problem came it was me who dropped him first.He was really upset for what I did.He didn't expect this from me.Afer losing him I am feeling really really guilty.It is true that his family or my family might not support our relation.But if I had told him about the horoscope problem before taking a decision to drop me, there might have been a chance.Iam feeling really guilty now.I hurt him so much.Iam not able to discuss this with anyone.His family is a bit financially weak now.He is concentrating on his work.I wish I could ge back with him and make him realize that I still love him.He told me not to wait for him and make my parents sad.Iam not able to do anything because of my guilt feeling.I wish I could have discussed with him when I had the chance.I really do love him but I know I can't force him.I wish there was something to hope for our future.Please suggest some solution.

Thank you for clearing up the horoscope and why he is putting so much work into his family at the moment.

No matter what happens in the future, you need to take time to heal in the present.

Give yourselves some time and space to let the hurt go. If he is concerned about his family, give him time to at least see where things are going with them. You were already willing to give him a couple of years. Give yourself that time too. Just don't 'wait' for him and don't expect him to wait for you. You both may end up finding people better suited to you.

When you heal and move on with your life, there is no telling where the path will lead. Take care of yourself and good luck in finding what is right for you.

I agree with the others - move on. Marrying into a family that does not accept you, particularly for something like a horoscope which you cannot control nor change, is a disaster waiting to happen. It's not so much whether the horoscope issue is legitimate, but family approval is very important to most people.

I do not believe anyone should ever be convinced to get married anyway. If he can't ask you out of true feelings of desire and commitment to be married, and particularly to be married to you, it will never be a satisfying marriage.

Don't worry about thinking of another man - think of yourself for now. Pursue your education or career, enjoy your family and friends and enjoy being single for a while. I'm guessing you are from a non-western culture and you may be under a lot of pressure to marry. Consider possibly traveling - go overseas to the US or Europe for a year or two for some new experiences, to study or work abroad. Get some new perspective and move forward.

I will go and disagree with most of the friends in this thread.

You have one life, one chance to love someone deeply which inverts all the logic, a love that you will remember till death. If you feel this is the person you crave for ( whatever the reason may be ), you should try it until everything collapse. I am telling it from my personal experience. If you think your love is that strong, that is a different.

Yes, yes, I know life is not a fairytale and "be practical" and all that mumbo jumbo. I am 110% practical person but I have lost something that may never recover. But I at least I gave my soul to it and I have no regret.

It is not necessary that you must have this person, but make sure you will have no regret whatever the outcome may be. Love deeply, try hard and pray to God. It does not matter if you have this person, but your love is special and make sure it leaves an impression. Your love is not so cheap so that you just give up in a snap.

Human dilemma is they (we) mix up LOVE and the OBJECT of LOVE.