I have been with my boyfriend for about 1 year and 3 months. He recently met some step sisters he had never met before and they have made an impact on him because they have all graduated and have careers. Suddenly he tells me he wants to go to school and that he's the kind of person that can only focus on one thing at a time (he has adhd). He says that he will not be able to focus on school If I am there because I will distract him. I can't seem to convince him that he can do both if we work really hard for it. I'm willing to keep myself busy with work and leave him to his studies while the semester is going. He doesn't want a break because he says it's just another way to be with other people. I told him I wouldn't and that I would wait for him... he then says that he doesn't like to use the word "wait" because he thinks that waiting for him will prevent me from finding someone better who can give me his full time. I really love this guy, he has been good to me overall. We do have our heated arguments but we are in love with each other. He tells me he loves me and is hard to let me go, but yet he said that his priorities have changed and school is more important at this point... What do I do? Should I keep fighting to keep him and change his mind? We are still together, but it seems that it's a thin line. He broke up with me, but I convinced him to take me back. I'm devastated. I had to sell my dogs because they were causing a lot of stress for him. Im just worried that in the end he will end up leaving me anyway. Serious answers please, I've very emotional at this point because I feel he just doesn't want to be with me. Why can't he do both? Is his reason valid?

Forcing him to take you back will not keep him with you, and maybe the best thing to do is let him go, and do things his own way.

If he indeed is the one for you, then he will miss you and be right there. If not... then you will have to move on any way. His priorities seem to have changed, and that's a hard obstacle to overcome.

Sorry, but I hope things do work out.

Of course, he can do both, but it doesn't sound like he wants to even try. Having to sell your dogs was a huge alarm ringing.

A healthy relationship makes hard times better, not harder. It's possible he's using school as an excuse to let you go easy-- or, he's about to make a huge mistake letting you go. Either way, if he says he wants out, take his word for it and give him space. If he wants you in his life he will make it happen.

I was in a similar situation-- my boyfriend of over a year broke up with me because he said he wanted to focus more energy on getting a better job, and he promised to come back once he did. I came to find out four months later that he hadn't bothered to send out a single resume that whole time, so I started seeing someone else. It was a slap in the face, but in the end things turned out for the better.

You seem to have different priorities and I'm sorry but I can't see this lasting much longer.

I think you let this go,and let him go do his thing.

I think if he love you the way he say he do then when he finish school he will come back just make a people to each other in tell him that u will wait on him to come back if u love him they way u say u do u will wait on him

Two things:

1) Maybe he really doesn't want to have a distraction while going to school, which regardless of what you two do, you WILL be a distraction... I have bee. There.

2) Maybe he has heard some stories of how much fun school can be and has decided that because he cares for you he is trying to end things nicely and wants to go have fun without having to lie to you.

Regardless of why he wants to break up with you, he will if he wants to, and you have to learn to accept and respect his decision. It doesn't matter if he can or cannot do both things at the same time, the fact is that he doesn't WANT to. And it also doesn't matter if the reason is valid. You need to start healing an find someone who actually wants to be with you. Stop begging him! "I convinced him...", I don't think so, is probably just that he feels sorry for you; have some respect and leave with your head held up high, don't make him be with you out of pity.

Good luck,
Javi

As you said 'his priorities seem to have changed',may be he is right that he really want to focus on his studies.So now let him do his work, if his love is true and he will miss you then I am sure that he will come back.But if it is not going to happen then you have to move on with your life.Because there is a chance that he was telling an excuse for letting you go.Anyways good luck!

The same thing happened with me. We had even discussed our future together. But the harsh reality was always there. He tried to breakup with me thrice in a year whenever anything used to go wrong in his life. That should have been a huge alarm bell for me. But all those times I convinced him to get back. Trust me. Doesn`t work. He broke up with me again this time. In finality. Citing all sorts of reasons from no future, to not being ready, and finally the relationship not being a priority. Let him go. Not worth it.