Fixer12
Apr 23, 2011, 02:32 PM
Currently, my girlfriend of almost 2 years is going to be moving out to be with me. She will be moving across the country and spending all of her money to do it. I am extremely excited about it, and so is she.
About a month ago I had found out from her that while we had broken up at one point, she had slept with another guy while being very vulnerable ( I had broken up with her). This had been hard for me, and unfortunetly started causing problems with my anxiety, which I have had since I was a kid, but tends to only get triggered by bad events. Then it is hard for me to shake. For a couple of weeks she helped me, and now I know that I am coming across and annoying, needy, and selfish. She has been getting angry with me when I ask to many questions, because she feels I am trying to find stuff wrong. (which I guess I am) and she keeps asking me to just give her space to say goodbye to her friends and family. This is the first time she has ever left her home and all of her family.
I don't want to driver her insane and make her unhappy. I want to be able to believe everything she tells me and not feel that maybe she is doing stuff with other guys. I have talked to her about it, and she just says things will get better, but I need to figure out a way to control my emotions. She tells me, "I am moving out there to be with you, i am moving 2000 miles to be with you, why would i ever do anything with anyone else?" and I know she proves a good point, I just need to find a way to control my emotions.
About a month ago I had found out from her that while we had broken up at one point, she had slept with another guy while being very vulnerable ( I had broken up with her). This had been hard for me, and unfortunetly started causing problems with my anxiety, which I have had since I was a kid, but tends to only get triggered by bad events. Then it is hard for me to shake. For a couple of weeks she helped me, and now I know that I am coming across and annoying, needy, and selfish. She has been getting angry with me when I ask to many questions, because she feels I am trying to find stuff wrong. (which I guess I am) and she keeps asking me to just give her space to say goodbye to her friends and family. This is the first time she has ever left her home and all of her family.
I don't want to driver her insane and make her unhappy. I want to be able to believe everything she tells me and not feel that maybe she is doing stuff with other guys. I have talked to her about it, and she just says things will get better, but I need to figure out a way to control my emotions. She tells me, "I am moving out there to be with you, i am moving 2000 miles to be with you, why would i ever do anything with anyone else?" and I know she proves a good point, I just need to find a way to control my emotions.