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patron_tequila
Apr 22, 2011, 07:05 AM
My boyfriend died some time ago, I am depressed and grieving, I can't move on or ever think of loving someone else, but I have been dreaming about having passionate sex with him almost every single night,I actually love my dreams! I wake up really happy in the mornings until reality hits me. I feel horrible.. he is dead and I am dreaming about enjoying myself! It is like I am still in a relatioship with him. What is wrong if I want to stay that way? I do feel weird but is it that abnormal?

JudyKayTee
Apr 22, 2011, 07:19 AM
When it comes to grieving NOTHING is abnormal. Whatever works for you, helps you through the process, is normal - for you. You say he died "some time ago." How long ago?

I was widowed over three years ago. My concern was (in the beginning) that I never dreamed about my husband.

I wouldn't think of this as enjoying yourself. I would think of it as enjoying him and the life you had together.

Grief is a long process. How are you doing in other aspects of your life?