My ex and I have been broken up for almost a year. April 28th will be a full blown year. I really want to go about and send him an e-mail asking him how he's doing. I've spent this year getting over him and it's safe to say that I have succeeded. I don't feel broken in any way. I just want to know if it's a good idea. Some girl friends I've talked to have either said I should or shouldn't do it. So I'd like a little more feed back from people I don't know. I wouldn't mind if you incorporated a story into the response because I'd like to know what I would be getting myself into if I do. And yes, I'm well aware that there's always that chance of him never replying to me at all. So please help! ALL answers are very much appreciated :)

What if you contact him, and he says, "Let's get together"?

That's a good question. I don't know how I would answer that. But it's also a very broad sentence.

"Let's get together for dinner tomorrow night at that little place we always used to go to."

As long as I drove myself there, we ate, chat, and then go our separate ways then yes. I'm totally fine with that.

I have never been one to look back because to be honest I was always moving forward to the next adventure in life. But why are you so curious about him if you have successfully moved on? What are you trying to prove?

People who have successfully moved on generally dismiss going back to exes and stirring up old feelings because lets be real who has the time for that? I think you take a minute and think about why this is a reasonable idea, and what your own motives are.

I know some just like to show the one that dumped them what they missed out on. So did he dump you or something?

Doesn't matter really, I think it's a lousy idea, and you should keep going forward with your life, and leave his alone. He probably has a new chick any way. What's would be the point? Just curious? Let it pass, and it will.

You make a good point. There really isn't a reason for me looking back. He broke up with me and after that, it was a mutual agreement to not remain friends after. I removed him from my life completely and started dating again. If he had a new girl, I wouldn't dare bring up the thought of asking him how he's doing. I'm happy with the time we had together. But the feelings are long gone from it.

He broke up with me

That's what I thought, and that's reason enough to forget getting in contact again.