My granddaughter informed my daughter that she has a friend named Alissa and she is 6. She was in a car wreck and her mommy is dead. At first my granddaughter would just play with this little girl but now she is telling grown ups things like "Alissa doesn't like when you talk about her" and "Alissa doesn't like you." What do you think is going on and should we be concerned?

I very much believe this type of thing is legit... and yes you should be concerned. Most people will say it's just an over active imagination... but I also think that most people don't believe in spirits until confronted with the problem. This story is very unsettling to me. What is their religious background/practices if I may ask? Is the mother concerned at all?

My daughter is catholic but doesn't attend church a lot but is a believer. Yes my daughter called me this morning because she said she got bad feelings when her daughter said it. More of the way she said it. My granddaughter is just 3 years old and usually a very happy go lucky child. And that's what I thought as well that it was just way too much specific info for a 3 year old to make up. Details like how old the kids are and that the mom died in the car wreck and that she doesn't like certain people and wants Savannah (my granddaughter) to only play with her.

Yes, that seems like unnecessary information for a 3 year old to have. Having two young children myself, I understand the normal type of playing and thinking and this just does not seem to fit. If her personality/habits change I think she needs to take some action. But why wait until that happens? Spiritual speaking, there are only two sides at work in this world. Humans spirits DO NOT remain on this earth after death. Biblically we have several examples of believers being immediately with the Lord upon death and for unbelievers being in immediate torment. We go one of two places... nothing in between. If it was something angelic, it would be obvious, either to the Lord's glory or for His work/protection of His people... which does not seem to be the case at all. That only leads one side left. The devil is a master of deceit and confusion. I have no doubt a spirit was present or involved with some car accident... but for the human spirit to remain and be communicating with your grandchild is simply not reality. If your daughter is not practicing her faith, I seriously doubt she has the spiritual strength to fight this. I suggest she dig her heels in, for her child's sake, and start to develop in her walk with God. But someone needs to pray over this child and this home. The Blood of Jesus needs to be applied to that family. I suggest she find someone in the church who understands these matters to help her and to pray for the child. Specifically someone needs to come in and COMMAND that it leave this family alone. She might even need to seek for help outside of the Catholic church on this one. Protestants seem to be developing more of an understanding in this are in the past decades, however, as long as the individual truly understands what's going on it doesn't matter what "denomination" they are.

But I must also say this... I haven't studied the child nor do I know the family... this COULD simply be a case of an over active imagination. That is for family to decide, not me.

But then to be honest I would be worried about a child often if they did not have a couple imaginary friends or pets or something. And a extreme history of this friend, makes them more real in many cases.

Is there any bad behavior blamed on the friend, is the friend scaring the child.

Often at 3 and up for a some years, a child has nothing that is just theirs, parents control everything in their room, their TV, their lives, so wanting something that is just theirs is also common

No bad behavior at all. I wouldn't worry if she was saying "it wasn't me it was Alissa" but she isn't. My daughter said its not just what she says its how she looks while she says it. It gives my daughter goosebumps.

I'm all about children having an imagination... but again, something just doesn't sit right with me on this one. But, what really matters is if they parents feel like something is wrong and it seems like the mom is creeped out.

Let me make it clear, I was NOT insinuating that the child was possessed or anything... but something could be trying to get into his life. I still think it would be best if someone prayed over him.

Dear hauntinghelper,

My daughter and I have thought a lot about it and we personally feel your right. And if there is really nothing there to worry about then great, but if there is then we took care of it. Can't hurt right.

That is always a good way to look at it... it's can't hurt anything. I truly hope the mother will take this time to really develop her walk with God. I really recommend someone who is going to speak directly to this situation as opposed to someone who is just going to "bless" the child. Spirits are willful and unique personalities and need to be dealt with on a personal level. If you have any questions or concerns I am here for you. Let me know how it goes or what you decide to do. I'd love to hear from you.

Thank you so very much hauntinghelper. I will surely do just that.

Thank you
Histexaslady

God bless, stay in touch. Even if you find out the child was making things up, I'd love to hear about it.