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itsme_hrts4u
Apr 20, 2011, 06:08 AM
Hi,I had protected sex on 23rd of feb... my periods date is around 27th,I got my periods on 28th febrauary & 27th march am I pregnant I feel like my tommy is little big please help me
J_9
Apr 20, 2011, 06:12 AM
We don't know whether you are pregnant. You will have to wait and see if you get your period for April.
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 23, 2011, 09:19 AM
I got my periods for aprial also just before I got it?am I pregnant
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 23, 2011, 09:21 AM
Hi,I had protected sex on 23rd of feb... my periods date is around 27th,I got my periods on 28th febrauary & 27th march and nw I got for April today 23rd.. am I pregnant I feel like my tommy is little big please help me
Wondergirl
Apr 23, 2011, 09:42 AM
hi,i had protected sex on 23rd of feb...my periods date is around 27th,i got my periods on 28th febrauary & 27th march nd nw i got for april 2day 23rd.. am i pregnent i feel like my tommy is littel big please help me
protected sex = 02/23
period = 02/28, 03/27, 04/22
Why do you think you might be pregnant?
JudyKayTee
Apr 23, 2011, 10:32 AM
Please stop opening new threads and answer the questions you have been asked.
I thought you had sex in February, got your period, now you are concerned?
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 23, 2011, 10:46 AM
Dono why imagining and stressing myself,feeling like die?do you think I'm pregnant?
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 23, 2011, 10:50 AM
Yes...
JudyKayTee
Apr 23, 2011, 10:50 AM
No. Yes, you are imagining and stressing yourself. I have no idea why. If this is correct you got your period THREE TIMES after you had sex.
Again - if you are terribly worried, buy a HPT and use it.
I don't know what else anyone can say to reassure you. You asked and several people answered. I don't know else is left to say.
Fr_Chuck
Apr 23, 2011, 10:56 AM
If that was the only time you had sex since, no you had ? 3 or 2 periods since, so no you are not pregnant.
I would assume you are either very young to have this terrible fear ?
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 23, 2011, 10:58 AM
OK OK.. jus tell me is der any possible for being pregnant when we are having period.. in some website I read lik we can have our period when we are pregnant .dats why I'm worrying..
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 23, 2011, 11:06 AM
No I din have sex afta that...
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 23, 2011, 11:07 AM
No I'm 21 nw..
JudyKayTee
Apr 23, 2011, 11:26 AM
Yes, it's possible but it's rare.
AGAIN - the only way to know is to be tested. Either get a HPT OR make an appointment with a Doctor.
There is nothing else to be said.
Cat1864
Apr 23, 2011, 11:37 AM
Please stop using chat speak. It is against site rules and can result in your post being deleted and/or your thread being closed. Ask Me Help Desk - FAQ: Terms of Service, FAQ and How To Use This Site (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/faq.php?faq=vb_faq#faq_faq_rules)
itsme, was that your first time having sex?
What type of protection did you use? Why are you so worried? Is there more that you haven't told us? Has there been any change in your period? Not dates but the amount of the flow?
I am going to be honest that being upset and worried is probably going to start affecting your body and how it functions.
You need to calm down. Writing out why you are worried may help you put it in perspective.
DoulaLC
Apr 23, 2011, 03:09 PM
No, you will not have a period when you are pregnant. You can have some bleeding in pregnancy, but it is not a period.
Since you have had a few periods, and they seem to have been on time, it is extremely unlikely that you would be pregnant from sex back in February. It was protected sex, and just before your period, both of which makes it even more unlikely.
If you need more assurance, take a pregnancy test... making sure you follow the directions exactly.
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 23, 2011, 09:28 PM
Used condom... I got my normal periods on feb,march,but nw its not lik that,it was very less flow... but I din have sex after feb, but I have asusual pain... I din have food properly in this week because I was very much worried... is that reason for less flow... my stomach is litttel big but I dono its tommy are I'm pregenent,I'm imagining some thin very bad,it should not happen to me... *** help
Wondergirl
Apr 23, 2011, 09:31 PM
Have you taken a home pregnancy test?
In which country do you live?
Please do not text your comments and replies.
J_9
Apr 24, 2011, 03:34 AM
used condom...i got my normal periods on feb,march,but nw its not lik dat,it was very less flow...but i din hav sex after feb,,but i hav asusual pain...i din hav food properly in dis week because i was very much worried...is dat reason for less flow...my stomach is litttel big but i dono its tommy r im pregenent,im imagining some thin very bad,it should not happen to me...*** help
Please use REAL words!
that = that
din = didn't
We are adults here, we don't use text/chat speak and it's very hard to understand. Should you continue using text/chat speak all of your posts WILL be deleted and you won't get ANY help.
Now, before you post again. Take a Home Pregnancy Test and tell us what the result was. I'll bet you aren't pregnant at all.
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 26, 2011, 07:44 AM
What will be the reason for less flow can you tell me?
Wondergirl
Apr 26, 2011, 07:46 AM
what will be the reason for less flow can you tell me?
Positive or negative stress, hormones, the weather, just because.
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 26, 2011, 08:20 AM
Just bacauase means?
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 26, 2011, 08:29 AM
Tommy?
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 26, 2011, 08:38 AM
I read in website less flow is symptoms of early pregnency?really don't know what to do I can't live.im crying here
JudyKayTee
Apr 26, 2011, 08:39 AM
Go and see a doctor - you refuse to believe what any0ne tells you (for whatever reason). And, yes, i'm shouting at you.
Wondergirl
Apr 26, 2011, 08:58 AM
Less flow is a sign that you must visit a doctor and allow him to examine you.
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 26, 2011, 09:24 AM
I am sorry for that,I was really worring I should not be pregnant and I don't know how to check and how to get those things,and I feel very hurting to go see doctor... feling like die,as I think that is a solution for my worries.. im sorry ones again...
Wondergirl
Apr 26, 2011, 10:27 AM
i am sorry for that,i was really worring i should not be pregnent and i dont know how to check and how to get those things,and i feel very hurting to go see doctor...feling like die,as i think that is a solution for my worries..im sorry ones again...
No, you should not be pregnant.
Doctor is good when hurting. Doctor will help you and will explain hurting.
You will feel much better after doctor visit.
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 28, 2011, 01:35 AM
I'm going to wait till next month period with hope... I should not be pregnant..
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 28, 2011, 06:46 AM
I'm going to wait till next month period with hope... I should not be pregnant.. what do you all think?
JudyKayTee
Apr 29, 2011, 08:14 AM
I think we've all said all that can be said. My suspicion is that you are not going to go to the Doctor, will get your period next month, will wonder if you're pregnant and this will start all over again.
Until a Physician confirms that you are not pregnant you are not going believe you are not pregnant.
What's going to happen the next time you have sex? Are you going to worry month after month?
I am concerned because you pretty much won't/didn't listen to what "we" had to say. You just won't be reassured. Perhaps you should speak to someone about this and any other issues in your life.
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 29, 2011, 09:14 AM
I am not going to have sex after this in my life time,this is swear I will never ever have sex.. feb 23rd is ma last day I had sex and that will be last day in my life.. I won't have sex after this.. I have very big problem in my life that's why I am asking this many time.. I hope you all will understand my worries and feelings as a girl.. im very sorry again..
Wondergirl
Apr 29, 2011, 09:37 AM
i have very big problem in my life
What is the very big problem in your life?
Cat1864
Apr 29, 2011, 09:52 AM
Itsme, we are here for you to ask any type of advice on any subject that you need it. Talking to us might help relieve some of the stress.
I am concerned that if you are under as much stress as it seems that you aren't eating properly, getting enough rest/sleep and might be making yourself sick.
I hope you are taking care of yourself.
JudyKayTee
Apr 29, 2011, 11:41 AM
i am not going to have sex after this in my life time,this is swear i will never ever have sex..feb 23rd is ma last day i had sex and that will be last day in my life..i wont have sex after this..i have very big problem in my life thats why i am asking this many time..i hope you all will understand my worries and feelings as a girl..im very sorry again..
You don't need to be sorry and/or apologize to anyone on this board. We've read and seen and experienced a lot of things, many of them somewhat shocking. It takes a lot to get "us" upset.
But I AM concerned that you are having problems which are causing you to react to the possibility of a pregnancy in this manner - you don't or won't or can't hear what we are telling you. That's a concern. Keep in mind that you are anonymous here. We couldn't find you if we wanted to find you. You can share anything, no one will judge, you will remain unknown to us. You may not like the advice you get but you will get some very good advice.
This is how anonymous you are - some time back (and the "old timers" will remember this) someone posted that she was going to kill herself. There was absolutely nothing we could do to locate that person in order to help her, get help for her, do anything. She never posted again and we don't know what happened. All we know is that we could not locate her.
See - you are entirely anonymous. And I'll add that the people who post here really do care about you. Wondergirl is a perfect example. You can read her "caring" in her posts to you.
As far as never having sex again - that's an easy promise to make. I personally (and you didn't ask for this advice so I'm just throwing it in for no reason) would be a lot more comfortable if you would begin some sort of birth control (pills, injections, something) NOW so that if you are ever tempted again you will be protected. Those "this was a bad scare so I'm never having sex again" promises are very, very hard to keep.
I'm a woman. I know.
I would be a lot more comfortable if I knew you were feeling better about yourself, had a handle on what is upsetting you or concerning you, were less upset.
Care to share anything? It's totally up to you.
itsme_hrts4u
Apr 30, 2011, 05:08 AM
If I am not pregnant my problems will be solved.. because my husband don want baby now, I don't want to kill my baby and I should listen what my husband tell me to do.. my marriage is love marriage,we married without our parents permission.. my husband his my only family,no one is there for me except him,I love him so much and he loves me even more then my love,he was suspecting like if I have a baby I won't be more affection on him.. he is behaving like kid and sometimes when I start telling about baby he is behaving like physco... I told him if he don't need baby don't have sex,he said OK and he didn't have sex after that.. but he was very caring.. so I don't want child... I need only my husband so I should not be pregnant.. I think not only sex is love so,we are very happy without having sex he need my love and only to him,. so I should not be pregnant.. my hubby is my baby... and il explain him later because just 7 month before we married.. I should not be pregnant every one pray.. ***
JudyKayTee
Apr 30, 2011, 06:53 AM
I agree that sex is a very small part of love, but I also think sex, physical intimacy, makes a marriage stronger. Yours is not the first marriage I've heard of where the couple did not have sex. I understand your concerns - sounds like you only have each other, no one else you can depend on, and he is concerned that if you have a child that child will need (and get) a portion of your attention. Your husband, of course, will lose that amount of attention.
Yes, he's behaving like a child. Do you think either he or you or both of you could talk to a counsellor, maybe come to some sort of understanding. When you married were you aware how he felt about having children or is this a surprise to you?
You could also speak to a Physician. Some methods of birth control are more effective than others (nothing, of course, is 100% effective) and perhaps a Doctor could help you choose.
I'm glad you came back and shared this with "us." I'm waiting to see what other people think.
I'm so sorry you've been so worried about this and I definitely didn't understand why you were so upset - now I understand!
itsme_hrts4u
May 1, 2011, 05:15 AM
No need sorry an all,I will make him understand slowly,but if I am pregnant now,he will surely feel very bad.. I should do everything with his permission and wish.. so after making him understand I should give birth to my child,he should not worry because of child.he should be happy with child.. I know my husband very well I will surely make him understand child is another me to him.. now I just want to know can I be pregnant now.. had sex on feb and got my periods for feb,march,but for April its little less,like spottin please tell me am I pregnant??
DoulaLC
May 1, 2011, 05:22 AM
If the last time you had sex was in Feb. and you had a couple of normal periods since that time, it is unlikely that you are pregnant now... especially if you have not noticed any other possible symptoms.
Sometimes a period can just be off. Try a pregnancy test, following the directions exactly, to know for sure or see your doctor for a test.
It is unfortunate that your husband would be so upset if you were pregnant as the child would be made from the love you have for each other. Maybe he isn't ready for that responsibility just yet as you haven't been married very long. In time he may change his mind.
In the meantime, discuss birth control options with your doctor... it would be wise to use two kinds since an unplanned pregnancy would be so upsetting to you both at this time.
Cat1864
May 1, 2011, 05:44 AM
no need sorry an all,i will make him understand slowly,but if i am pregnant now,he will surely feel very bad..i should do everything with his permission and wish..so after making him understand i should give birth to my child,he should not worry because of child.he should be happy with child..i know my husband very well i will surely make him understand child is another me to him..now i just want to know can i be pregnent now..had sex on feb and got my periods for feb,march,but for april its little less,like spottin please tell me am i pregnent???
Fear, worry, stress, etc. can affect your cycle. It sounds like you have been under a lot of stress for several months now. It could all be catching up with your body.
I am concerned that you are losing yourself to make him happy. That isn't love. That is control. Love is working together to overcome the obstacles that life puts in the way. It is not one person trying to make the one happy at the cost of his/her self and health.
Do you have any friends you can spend time with to relax? Do you work?
itsme_hrts4u
May 1, 2011, 08:07 AM
After my marriage came foraway from native,nobody is there.I know only my husband he is my only relation,I'm not working
DoulaLC
May 1, 2011, 08:12 AM
Do you have friends where you live that you can talk to? Do you communicate with your family or friends back home? Can you get a job where you live?
I too am concerned about how much worry you have over your husband's reaction. That he "goes psycho" when you mention possibly being pregnant, or that he is so fearful that you won't have attention for him if you had a baby, to the point of not having sex with you, is not normal behavior.
Are you fearful of your husband?
Cat1864
May 1, 2011, 09:07 AM
Do you have any interests or hobbies that can help you relieve some stress? They can also be a way to make new friends in the place that you are currently living.
If he doesn't want you making friends, then there is another warning sign that his need to be the only thing in your life will get worse.
To take care of him, you need to take care of yourself. The healthier you are mentally, emotionally, and physically the healthier your marriage will be.
itsme_hrts4u
May 2, 2011, 12:51 AM
No I am not fear for my husband,he is so caring,from the day we married I didn't feel lonely,even if he goes to office he will be messaging are he will speak to me when ever he gets time.. and if I ask him anything he will never say no so if I want to work I can work.. he will surely allow me,only thing he asked me is he don't need child now,so I want to obey him because he is so good,, if I'm pregnant it will hurt him badly there is chance for hating me that is my fear... because when he told about this he was crying and I felt very bad..
Alty
May 2, 2011, 08:17 AM
no i am not fear for my husband,he is so caring,from the day we married i dint feel lonely,even if he goes to office he will be messaging are he will speak to me when ever he gets time..and if i ask him anything he will never say no so if i want to work i can work..he will surely allow me,only thing he asked me is he dont need child now,so i want to obey him because he is so good,,,if im pregnent it will hurt him badly there is chance for hating me that is my fear...because when he told about this he was crying and i felt very bad..
If he's as wonderful and caring as you say then there's no way he could hate you because of something the two of you made together. The fact that you think he would hate you tells me he's not as wonderful as you seem to think he is.
Fact is, you've had periods since the last time you had sex. I don't know why you still assume that you're pregnant.
Have you taken a pregnancy test? Buy one, follow the instructions. When it comes back negative then perhaps that will set your mind at ease, seeing as nothing we've said has seemed to do the trick.
itsme_hrts4u
May 3, 2011, 11:32 PM
Where to buy it,do you know how much it cost?
Cat1864
May 4, 2011, 04:22 AM
What country do you live in now? It will help us know what resources are available to you.
Most stores that carry contraceptives also carry home pregnancy tests. As for cost, that depends on the test and the store. In the US, they can be as low as a couple of dollars.
The main thing is to follow directions and take the test when you first use the bathroom in the morning. The hormone level is more concentrated.
Good luck. :)
itsme_hrts4u
May 4, 2011, 05:08 AM
I'm in india...
itsme_hrts4u
May 4, 2011, 07:07 AM
Cough,white discharge,very weight feeling near throat is that symptoms of pregnant?
JudyKayTee
May 4, 2011, 07:11 AM
No.
itsme_hrts4u
May 4, 2011, 07:16 AM
Thank you
itsme_hrts4u
May 4, 2011, 07:19 AM
Can you please tell me pregnency symptoms?
itsme_hrts4u
May 4, 2011, 08:10 AM
Please tell me what is symptoms of pregnency..
JudyKayTee
May 4, 2011, 08:29 AM
There are many sites - here is one: Pregnancy - Information, Tools & Timeline | BabyCenter (http://www.babycenter.com/pregnancy)
Alty
May 4, 2011, 02:57 PM
can you please tell me pregnency symptoms?
Are you honestly still thinking that you're pregnant?
The major symptom of pregnancy is no period. You've had your period every month for 3 months since the last time you had sex!
Have you tried a pregnancy test like we suggested, or do you just want to go by symptoms and end up worrying for the next 6 months?
You should know that pregnancy symptoms and PMS, and many illnesses, are exact.
The only way to confirm a pregnancy is with a pregnancy test, either over the counter, or at your doctors office.
So get a test, pee on the stick, and when it turns negative, maybe then you'll finally believe that you're not pregnant. :(
Alty
May 4, 2011, 03:36 PM
JudyKayTee finds this helpful : Wrong! No matter what she's not going to believe she's not pregnant. Get the feeling our lips are moving and she's not hearing? I'm starting to wonder about OP.
I have a feeling you're right. I think that even in 6 months, which will be 9 months after she had sex, she'll still think she's pregnant, even though she hasn't given birth to a child.
I don't know what else we can say at this point. We have told her time and time again that the fact that she's had her period every month since she had sex, means she's not pregnant, yet she still thinks she is.
I for one don't feel like repeatedly banging my head on the wall telling someone the facts, when she won't listen.
If the OP wants help with her other issues, I'm more then willing to give advice. But, if she asks one more time whether she's pregnant, without taking a pregnancy test, I will report this thread. I think we're all done giving advice to deaf ears.
Cat1864
May 4, 2011, 03:58 PM
Itsme, how much do you want children? I don't want to hear about what your husband wants. I want to know what you want.
What are your expectations for having children? Do you think the families would be more welcoming when grandchildren come along? Do you think that a child will replace the family that you left behind? Do you think a child will give you unconditional love and make your life and family unit complete?
I think itsme is as hopeful as she is scared and worried. Taking the test would be devastating either way.
JudyKayTee
May 4, 2011, 04:09 PM
I'm with Alty - I think it's time to close this thread. It's taking up time and energy and I believe there are other issues at play here. Nothing we can say is going to make a difference.
Alty
May 4, 2011, 04:21 PM
I think itsme is as hopeful as she is scared and worried. Taking the test would be devastating either way.
I agree. I do think that deep down she's hoping that she is, while hoping that she isn't.
But sitting there worrying about it every day isn't doing her any good, and obviously what we're telling her isn't doing any good either.
It's time for her to take a test so she can stop worrying. She may be upset, but better then sitting around for the next 6 months wondering and worrying.
We've done and said all we can. She just keeps coming back asking if she's pregnant. We can't pee on the stick for her, only she can do that.
This thread has gone as far as it can. It's up to the OP to read the advice she's been given, and decide where to go from there. There's really nothing left to be said.