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Noimtheboss
Apr 19, 2011, 11:08 PM
My boyfriend and I started dating when I was a freshman in high school and he was a senior. He took a year off to work after he graduated but he ended up getting laid off. He's planning to go to a 2 year school to get a degree in something he really loves after this year of 'down time' is over. Here is kind of a chart of where we are going to be at because it's a little confusing. I'm on the left, he's on the right

Freshman HS-Senior HS
Sophomore HS-Year off to work
Junior HS- First year in College
Senior HS-Second year in College
1st year College- Working
2nd year College- Working
3rd year College-Working
4th year College-Working
Working-Working

He is going away for college so its going to be a hard 2 years for both of us. I'd like to live off campus with him all 4 years of my college but I know that wherever he finds work depends on where we would live and then were I would go to school. But depending on the school I might have to live on campus for my freshman year so it wouldn't even matter where I would go because we would be just as separated. Tips and personal experiences would help :]

justcurious55
Apr 19, 2011, 11:58 PM
So where exactly are you at now? Junior or senior year?

My advice, pick a school that you will love regardless of where he will or won't be. Because chances are it won't last. I'm not saying it's impossible. But it's just not likely that the two of you will stay together throughout all of your high school and college years. And it would be miserable if you moved away from your family to go to a school your didn't have your heart set on just to be near him and then the two of you break up.

It's important for you to have your own life and really find yourself and that's a big part of what going away for college is all about. Don't deprive yourself of the full experience.

mmresd
Apr 22, 2011, 01:09 PM
You think you ha e it figured out, but from experience a four year school normally takes more than four years, and sometimes up to 6 or 7 since it depends how many credits you are taking for semester, and if you keep the same major the whole time.

Moving in together is a bad idea. And limiting yourself because of where he is going to work is even worse. You need to focus on important things like your future instead of living in your fairy tail world. Is OK since you are young, but hopefully when you graduate you will have matured a little more and will have learned to use common sense to make your life decisions.

Good luck,
Javi