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ordinaryguy
Jan 24, 2007, 01:24 PM
Here's an article (http://www.nytimes.com/2007/01/21/weekinreview/21zernike.html?ei=5087%0A&em=&en=8182264f6d34c6d2&ex=1169787600&pagewanted=all) from today's NY Times about why a record number of Americans are single. Here's a little excerpt to whet your appetite and get those digestive juices flowing:


Commitment-averse men in their 20’s and 30’s, it turns out, look the same whether they have a college degree. In surveys and focus groups, they fit depressingly well into the old stereotypes: they fear marriage means a loss of liberty; they worry a wife will want to change them. They don’t trust women to tell the truth about past relationships, or they are waiting for the soul mate who hasn’t appeared. With the rising frequency of cohabitation, they can get sex without marriage, and they might lose their hard-earned money in a divorce, so what’s the rush?

As a Marriage Project report concluded, with no biological or sociological clock ticking, “boys can remain boys indefinitely.”
Sound familiar? What do you think?

chuff
Jan 24, 2007, 04:45 PM
Sounds like we hear those versions at this site a lot.

I think something that has been talked about with my friends that was mentioned there in that article was the fear of losing everything in a divorce. I can only speak for my little core group but I know is a big deal to a lot of men. And let's be honest, in a divorce espically one involving children men have no power. There is inequality in American divorce courts no matter what the laws state, as it relates to men.

Also I think something not mentioned is that 100 years ago a woman married and most wives stayed at home and depended on their husbands where now women have careers and they don't need finicial dependence from a many like the "old days."