My girlfriend and I have been together since November of last year. I started dating her when she was 16 (she is now 18) but we ended the relationship because she was leaving to Colorado (I am in Texas) and I didn't want a long distance relationship. When she left I found someone else and was happy until the 16 year old came back a month after I had broken up with the other girl. We had plans to move in together may first.

Last night we were testing as if nothing was wrong an all of a sudden she takes about an hour to respond and says that she has bad news. Naturally, I ask what they were. So we have a chat about how she has to go to Mexico because one of her family members has become seriously ill.

Problem is: if she goes back to Mexico, she cannot return to the USA because of her immigration status. And due to mine, I cannot exit the country for another year because I'm still in process. I don't know what to tell her. I don't want her to go and I want her by my side.

Also, she has been going back and forth from Colorado to Texas since we got back together, she was supposed to move permanently here with me, and now I have no idea what is going to happen.

She is not texting or answering my phone calls since eleven last night.

Please advise on what I should do and what I should tell her. I feel lost.

Thanks in advance,
Javi

Until she decides to pick up when you call,or respond to your messages,there's not a lot you can do.

All you c a n tell her is that you want to dicuss things with her.

I think you have no choice but to wait until you hear from her, and see what she wants to do.

You have to be patient, and try not to freak out until you get more facts. Calm down, its only been hours.

Thank you for your advise guys, have talked to her and convinced her that leaving would be a bad choice for our future, she is still moving with me on may first and everything is going according to plan. Thank you.

If this thread could be closed now it would be appreciated it.

Thanks,
Javi

Just wishing you the best of luck!

Thanks!!

right now I see... you been hurt recently too... you prob didn't cheat on her and it hurt u to hear about men being generalised when u nvr did that... so u know what its like for someone u love to be ignoring u... it hurts you doesn't it? Well then... I honestly feel bad for you and as I said before I do value what u said and had agreed with you... so nvr mind now... I hope u stay in touch with her and u stay friends with her... its very hard when u really like or love someone regardless or whether they're married or not... as u can imagine... very hard to let them go and this attach when u feel very strongly... very hard... so I can sympathise with u now... so I'm sorry if I over reacted before but I just met a lot of idiots that's all and keep getting hurt... but whether somoenes married or not if you've fallen for them the last thing u wanan hear is oh they're playing you... that does hurt when you're hurting enough already... and you've exp hurt recently so u should now about feeling hurt... but how old are you ? I'm guessing very near 18! To be dating 18 yr olds! Well anyway I saw she's moving in with u and I hope it works out for you though and I'm sorry if it got heated... I didn't put CAPS on because I was angry I just type in caps sometimes so I can read it easier... but anyway thankx for yr time and I mean it in a nice way despite how we both got bit bad with each other... yes I shouldn't generalize... youre right... but anyway take care... these sites get many people s opinions... it can be bit hard to stay calm sometimes when you want to HEAR a certain word from someone... and on some sites people are very rude too... so u have to expect it since we are complete stangers and people don't know each other on here... but anyway it was challenging at least... bye x

Thank you for the post. Yeah I guess it was pain, more worry really but it wasn't a good feeling that is for sure. Yes, it is hard to hear advise happily when you are wanting a certain answer. Bye.

Good luck,
Javi