Torquil69
Apr 13, 2011, 11:12 AM
Hi community,
I really do come here with some degree of desperation, and I hope that I can get some answers, I really do. Me and my wife are apart at the moment, we have always been since we met, because she is from overseas. We have spent a lot of time apart, but thanks to technology we keep in touch every day. In the last 2 years, we have spent about 16 months together.
Anyway, about every six weeks or so, she has these "spells" where she will be online, and want to argue with me... we got married, I swore my life to her, and I mean it... but it still happens. I Love her dearly, and 90% of the time, we are perfectly fine... we are working on her visa, we are about 85% of the way there, so close, then she can come and live with me.
But when she argues; the insults, the accusations that I am with other women, etc, etc... it has been happening for so long now, I am starting to get really hurt, I don't know how much longer I can put up with it, I really don't. I do not "generalize" about women; I do not intend to blame her periods, whatever. In fact, it is in no way in sync with her cycle at all, I have tracked it. She's 39 years old, and she has not had a child yet. Perhaps she feels unfulfilled?
She certainly is a "family girl", and we are planning a child soon, but sometimes I cannot get over the hurt she puts on me. I wondered if she may be heading for early menopause; sorry, not a generalization again, just an educated guess based on what I have heard.
I got another tirade of abuse last night, and I feel like I am at a breaking point. She has no personality disorders as far as I know, aside from insecurity, which she claims all women have. I have asked her to consult her doctor about this, but she will not, I don't know why.
Can anybody please offer any advice? Or has anybody ever been in a similar situation?
I Love this woman with all my heart, but I'm wondering how much more I can take.
Thanks in advance,
AJ.
I really do come here with some degree of desperation, and I hope that I can get some answers, I really do. Me and my wife are apart at the moment, we have always been since we met, because she is from overseas. We have spent a lot of time apart, but thanks to technology we keep in touch every day. In the last 2 years, we have spent about 16 months together.
Anyway, about every six weeks or so, she has these "spells" where she will be online, and want to argue with me... we got married, I swore my life to her, and I mean it... but it still happens. I Love her dearly, and 90% of the time, we are perfectly fine... we are working on her visa, we are about 85% of the way there, so close, then she can come and live with me.
But when she argues; the insults, the accusations that I am with other women, etc, etc... it has been happening for so long now, I am starting to get really hurt, I don't know how much longer I can put up with it, I really don't. I do not "generalize" about women; I do not intend to blame her periods, whatever. In fact, it is in no way in sync with her cycle at all, I have tracked it. She's 39 years old, and she has not had a child yet. Perhaps she feels unfulfilled?
She certainly is a "family girl", and we are planning a child soon, but sometimes I cannot get over the hurt she puts on me. I wondered if she may be heading for early menopause; sorry, not a generalization again, just an educated guess based on what I have heard.
I got another tirade of abuse last night, and I feel like I am at a breaking point. She has no personality disorders as far as I know, aside from insecurity, which she claims all women have. I have asked her to consult her doctor about this, but she will not, I don't know why.
Can anybody please offer any advice? Or has anybody ever been in a similar situation?
I Love this woman with all my heart, but I'm wondering how much more I can take.
Thanks in advance,
AJ.