Well. Honestly, I'm not really into looking him.. just curious if he is looking for me, I don't have any idea about him, and I'm shy to ask my mom about him, so we never talked about him.. he left us when my mom got pregnant.. can I say he abandoned us.. well, that's the case, I guess.. so as I grow up with my step dad, who treated me as his own, I never got curious about my biological father, "its like the hell i care about him, he abandoned me, that means he doesnt want me, so i dont want him too", but now, as I grow older I got curious about him "a little". I don't hate him "thanks to my step dad", because. He gave me love as a real father would love his daughter. Back to the "i got curious now about my biological father" I noticed, even I'm contented and happy with my life, there is still part of me is missing. So that's why, I'm trying to find my biological father now, so I can know who I really am. So I can complete the missing piece of myself. Well all I can say is I was born in Olongapo city, philippines. My dad is an american/german.. my mom tells a different stories sometimes, that's why I get tired of asking her, I don't know what to believe. I know my mom works as a waitress in olongapo when he met my father, and she told me that my father really doesn't like her, she just beg for him to give her a white child. (bec. That's my moms dream before, to have a white kid) so.. after that my father left.. my birth date is August 30, 1989. I'm 21 yrs. Old now. Well if I was born August 30, 1989. Maybe my mom and my biological father made me on november/december 1988. Well, I know this won't help much to find me.. just trying maybe if someone looking for a lost daughter have the same story as mine.. I guess, it won't hurt trying.. pray for me, wish me luck. Thank you all for reading this. More blessings to all of us. You can email me at >Removed< if you have any idea who is my father.

You don't know that your naural father didn't want you or abandoned you. He may not even know about you. If your Mom is to be believed she "simply" wanted a child. She may not have even told him. You said your Mom tells various stories. I don't know how to figure out which one is true.

It would be impossible to locate your father without his name. Your mother must know what it is.

At the top of the adoption forum, there is a sticky thread that lists several reunion websites.

Register on those websites, giving as much information as you can. If there is a match for your father looking for you, then they will let you know.

Thank you for your comment.. I really do appriciate it.. well I don't know if I have the guts to ask my mom about my biological father. Because we haven't talked about it since I was 7 or 8yrs. Old

It would just be so much easier if you had a name to start with. Obviously the whole topic is painful for your mother. Is there some way to approach it about, say, family medical history on your father's side?

Again - your father may not even know.

Perhaps your stepfather could help you. You love him very much - that's apparent. You aren't looking to replace him. You are just looking for your own identity. Perhaps he could speak with your Mom.