smearcase
Apr 10, 2011, 03:48 AM
I had a dental checkup a few days ago with a dentist I have known for many years. I am very satisfied with the skills of this dentist and would be very hard pressed to look for another. I really don't want to do that.
I was not in a very good mood admittedly (probably because I don't like these checkups very much) when the hygenist called my name, but I tried to remain civil, even joking around with her some, at first. I have had extensive dental work (implants etc) and I have never had any problem tolerating any of it.
She determined that I needed x-rays and I'm not a big fan of that either but I agreed to it. As I watched her get ready to do the x-rays, she got the necessary devices from the supply cabinet and placed them on the computer stand and I noticed that she wasn't wearing gloves and I said "Shouldn't you be wearing gloves?" Her answer was that "her hands were clean". That didn't improve my mood as I know that is not an acceptable answer. I ran my mouth some more about what was the policy in that office for a few minutes while she started my x-rays (she put on gloves at some point in between) and she said it again-- "my hands are very clean". I took off the x-ray apron, put it on the chair and walked out. On the way to the waiting room (my wife was with another hygenist and I was waiting for her) I saw the dentist and called him over (no others were in the waiting room at that time) and I guess I gave him a pretty hard time. At least twice, I asked him if what I described, especially his employee implying that clean hands were a substitute for gloves in his practice. He, of course, said No-it wasn't his policy.
But then and later at another discussion after my wife was ready to leave, he made several attempts to justify what had happened which pretty well implied that I didn't see or hear what I thought I had seen or heard. He stressed that his employees are instructed to not wear gloves while readying the computer for digital hookups. I explained that she was handling devcies destined for my mouth at the same time.
Her "clean hands-don't need gloves" statements (twice) are what set me off. His explanantions always came back to the theme that I needed to understand the process better. I know that he can't admit any shortcomings with regard to hygenic procedures in his office and I have no doubt that he is a stickler for proper protection of patients. He could have simply said that he would stress to his employees that clean hands and gloves are two very different things.
He all but begged me to continue my relationship with him. I said that I would give him another chance at the end of the discussion. I asked my wife if she heard the commotion when I left the chair. She hadn't-- but the dentist had asked her (while he was examining her teeth) if I was OK (we had a tragic event in our lives six months ago which he knew about) and said that he had never seen me irritated before. I didn't know that until after we had finished our discussion with him.
I think he sold me out rather than have a confrontation with his employee. He tried to make it about me. I have to decide whether to honor my commitment to give him another chance, in light of his questions of my wife, which I didn't know about when I made the commitment. I realize that my mood and recent grief may have affected my actions, and I guess the question is--Did I over-react?
I was not in a very good mood admittedly (probably because I don't like these checkups very much) when the hygenist called my name, but I tried to remain civil, even joking around with her some, at first. I have had extensive dental work (implants etc) and I have never had any problem tolerating any of it.
She determined that I needed x-rays and I'm not a big fan of that either but I agreed to it. As I watched her get ready to do the x-rays, she got the necessary devices from the supply cabinet and placed them on the computer stand and I noticed that she wasn't wearing gloves and I said "Shouldn't you be wearing gloves?" Her answer was that "her hands were clean". That didn't improve my mood as I know that is not an acceptable answer. I ran my mouth some more about what was the policy in that office for a few minutes while she started my x-rays (she put on gloves at some point in between) and she said it again-- "my hands are very clean". I took off the x-ray apron, put it on the chair and walked out. On the way to the waiting room (my wife was with another hygenist and I was waiting for her) I saw the dentist and called him over (no others were in the waiting room at that time) and I guess I gave him a pretty hard time. At least twice, I asked him if what I described, especially his employee implying that clean hands were a substitute for gloves in his practice. He, of course, said No-it wasn't his policy.
But then and later at another discussion after my wife was ready to leave, he made several attempts to justify what had happened which pretty well implied that I didn't see or hear what I thought I had seen or heard. He stressed that his employees are instructed to not wear gloves while readying the computer for digital hookups. I explained that she was handling devcies destined for my mouth at the same time.
Her "clean hands-don't need gloves" statements (twice) are what set me off. His explanantions always came back to the theme that I needed to understand the process better. I know that he can't admit any shortcomings with regard to hygenic procedures in his office and I have no doubt that he is a stickler for proper protection of patients. He could have simply said that he would stress to his employees that clean hands and gloves are two very different things.
He all but begged me to continue my relationship with him. I said that I would give him another chance at the end of the discussion. I asked my wife if she heard the commotion when I left the chair. She hadn't-- but the dentist had asked her (while he was examining her teeth) if I was OK (we had a tragic event in our lives six months ago which he knew about) and said that he had never seen me irritated before. I didn't know that until after we had finished our discussion with him.
I think he sold me out rather than have a confrontation with his employee. He tried to make it about me. I have to decide whether to honor my commitment to give him another chance, in light of his questions of my wife, which I didn't know about when I made the commitment. I realize that my mood and recent grief may have affected my actions, and I guess the question is--Did I over-react?