Hi guys, I'm currently going through the process of having contact with my daughter after 6 years away, her mother started the contact saying that she was asking about me, and I've sent her some gifts and stuff as I'm away in south east asia, id just like some advice on how it will play out when I get back and arrange to meet with her, what to say, and do. Its quite scary thinking about it, but she has asked to see me, and her mum is fine with the situation,thanks in advance :)http://www.mogio.co.uk/resourcecenter/img/97/116-978328179.jpg

As a fatherless woman I'd say GO! Go and see her as soon as you can~the conversation will work out naturally. She'll be curious about where you've been but also realize she doesn't know it any other way and doesn't (yet) know what she's been missing. So for now you're more of a curiosity, but one that has tremendous influence whether present or absent. Man up and go see your daugther! Answer her honestly but according to her age. Don't say ANYTHING bad about her mother. And just try and love her--I think all little girls and boys want their Daddy. Sheesh--I'm 49, never met my dad, and I still have that feeling that "I want my Daddy". Gifts are NOTHING compared to knowing what your father smells like, and knowing what color his eyes are in the afternoon sunlight.

Just start with a big hug, and tell her how you missed her, and thought about her every day.

Know what a lucky guy you are, and be grateful, very, very, grateful.

Are there phone calls, video chats and the such going on now ?

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