sadanddesparate
Apr 3, 2011, 01:14 PM
Ive been married for just 6 months. I knew before we married that my husband was a binge drinker, and used drugs occasionally. Before we married he promised that he would stop. He hasn't and lately it is just getting worse and is now practically a weekly occurrence.he does try and sometimes comes home at a reasonable time before he gets really badly drunk, othertimes he doesn't. He is not physically abusive and I feel like I am overreacting but it makes me so upset.Im frantic when I know he is going out because I know how the night is going to end (im not a big drinker and hardly ever go out) He has embarrassed me in front of my family and friends. His mother and father are big drinkers they have helped me get him home a couple of times but they just say it is my choice whatever I decide to do leave him or not they don't admit he has a problem)my family live in another country and are supportive of me but I'm too embarrassed to admit his behaviour is still ongoing. Before we married he said he realised his problem once he starts drinking he can't stop. Now he says that this is who he is and he is never going to change for me. I get upset because he doesn't come home till long after the club has closed, he is obnoxious and says mean things in one sentence and then is all sweetness the next like nothing has been said, I worry for his safety because he gets confused and disorientated, alcohol changes him into someone I'm beginning to hate. Its hard because I love the sober him so very much. I have threatened to leave and he just says that I've been looking for reasons to leave and if I'm unhappy to just go. I don't want to leave but I can't go on like this, I feel stupid to get so upset but it is hurtful.I don't know what to do.Ive suggested AA, he laughed said he is not an alcoholic and there is noway he will ever go. I don't know what else to do.