futuremrs.ball
Mar 30, 2011, 01:22 PM
So I have known this guy for almost 11 years. We worked together and I was starting my divorce from my ex husband and things were going really bad for me. He was going through some issues with his fiancé as well. We quickly became close and leaned on each other through this. I felt like there was something there between us and a few times felt like he was going to kiss me but he didn't.
Then my husband found out that we were talking and flipped out and made a scene at my job. And confronted the guy. My husband told me that this guy said some things about me saying that basically we just talked because he felt sorry for me and it was all me. I had fallen for this guy and this really hurt me so I didn't speak to him again and decided not to divorce my husband.
A couple years later I ran into him again and found out that he was going into the military and fearing id never see him again I wanted to see him and ask what had happened the night my husband confronted him. We talked and he told me things didn't happen the way I was told. We talked for a little bit and then when he went to basic training I sent him a letter telling him how I felt about him. I figured id never get another chance and I just wanted him to know.
That has been 8 years ago. I am divorced now and have been dating. Last spring I ran into this guy while he was in town visiting his family. We talked for a few minutes and caught up. After that we became friends on Facebook and talked once and exchanged numbers but he was married.
Well recently out of the blue we started talking again. He lives several states away from me and is going to school and is divorced. But we started talking and texting each other daily. We have started becoming close again. He told me that he has cared a lot about me since we worked together ten years ago. And he wants to see what can happen between us. He knows how I feel about him. But I don't know what exactly is going on with us. He has said that he wants to be with me and take this as far as we can. But he also says that we don't know what's going to happen with us. But hasn't said anything about anything official.
It is a long distance. I would like to know what's up. Are we together or not. Is he serious about being with me. I don't want to try a long distance relationship and him really not be interested. He recently came up to see me. And we spent a lot of time together. It was amazing. Just being with him made me care about him even more. He got along great and I am sure there is definitely something there between us. But what does he want, and where do we stand now. I don't know what to do. Could someone please help?
Then my husband found out that we were talking and flipped out and made a scene at my job. And confronted the guy. My husband told me that this guy said some things about me saying that basically we just talked because he felt sorry for me and it was all me. I had fallen for this guy and this really hurt me so I didn't speak to him again and decided not to divorce my husband.
A couple years later I ran into him again and found out that he was going into the military and fearing id never see him again I wanted to see him and ask what had happened the night my husband confronted him. We talked and he told me things didn't happen the way I was told. We talked for a little bit and then when he went to basic training I sent him a letter telling him how I felt about him. I figured id never get another chance and I just wanted him to know.
That has been 8 years ago. I am divorced now and have been dating. Last spring I ran into this guy while he was in town visiting his family. We talked for a few minutes and caught up. After that we became friends on Facebook and talked once and exchanged numbers but he was married.
Well recently out of the blue we started talking again. He lives several states away from me and is going to school and is divorced. But we started talking and texting each other daily. We have started becoming close again. He told me that he has cared a lot about me since we worked together ten years ago. And he wants to see what can happen between us. He knows how I feel about him. But I don't know what exactly is going on with us. He has said that he wants to be with me and take this as far as we can. But he also says that we don't know what's going to happen with us. But hasn't said anything about anything official.
It is a long distance. I would like to know what's up. Are we together or not. Is he serious about being with me. I don't want to try a long distance relationship and him really not be interested. He recently came up to see me. And we spent a lot of time together. It was amazing. Just being with him made me care about him even more. He got along great and I am sure there is definitely something there between us. But what does he want, and where do we stand now. I don't know what to do. Could someone please help?