Hi,
Having a bit of trouble in our relationship and need some advice and help, here goes...

Firstly, we have been together for almost a year now, until recently we were very happy and I am over the moon that I am with her. I never want to leave her as she is the love of my life. Some say I spoil her too much as I am gullable buying gifts for her, taking her theatre, meals and keeping her happy. I'm also taking her for an all paid holiday to Monaco. I do everything for her, and never have hurt her. We do have ups and down but that's normal in any relationship. We have been so happy together.

Soon my brother is to get married and we have decided to go abroad on holiday as a family. There are 6/7 guys going and they are all blood brother and first cousins. We are going away for 3 days to a European country. Nothing big just few of us going away as I never been away with all my guy cousins and brother together.

Now she has a big issue with this, she thinks that I will get up to no good and betray her. She has not been talking to me properly for 4\5 days and each time we talk we are arguing because she doesn't believe me. She does believe that I am not one of those guys who will go to mess around and cheat on her. I so love her and this is not what I will do. I told her we are going with my brothers and cousins for a holiday and nothing more. I have told her I done so much for her why would I chuck it away now. I cannot cancel because it's all booked by my brother and my family is expecting me there.

I am really in love with her and want to marry her. but she is not listening to me and not cooperating. I never stopped her doing anything she wants to do. I have always been honest and I'm pouring my heart out to her.

Please help. I don't want to lose her.

If something like this would cause your relationship to end, than it wasn't going to stay together anyway (just my opinion).

A bachelor party (which I assume this is) always brings up these issues with couples. The bottom line is trust. If she trusted you, there would be no problem. You do what you think is best, but I do not see a problem with celebrating with Family over a Marriage.

Just reasure her that you are a good guy.

It is unfortunate that she is so concerned that you might have difficulty being faithful to her. Perhaps she is worried that all of you will be drinking and things could get out of hand. Certainly some people do not make good choices when they drink. Have you spent time apart before? Has she gone on any holidays with family or friends?

Reassure her that she can contact you whenever, and you will speak to her daily. Tell her, again, that you love her and would never do anything like that to put your relationship in jeopardy. Ask her why does she not trust you enough to believe what you say? She could just as easily fool around while you are gone, but you trust her fully not to because you know she is not that sort of person. You would have hoped she knew that about you as well.

Go and enjoy your time with your family. When you return, if she still is not accepting that you can be trusted, than, as sharper said, maybe the relationship is not meant to last. You certainly do not want to make a life long commitment to someone who does not trust you.

Go and have a great time with your famoly, no matter what she says or does, just keep the cell phone close and charged up. If you feed her fears and insecurities by giving in to them, boy are you asking for trouble in the future.

Keep reasuring her, but don't let her push it too far. Sometimes you have to take a stand, and set limits to how much you let someone push you, yes even the partner that you love.

Thank you so much for your advice guys... really appreciate it... I had no one to talk to or go to.. I will try and make her understand... I will be faithful and reassure her nothing will happen.. I will make sure I win her over again... I will try my hardest and prove to her everything will be back to normal...
Really appreciate your help... Thanks once again..

Good luck with everything and have a nice holiday!