foskita86
Mar 28, 2011, 02:13 PM
Hi,
Im a 25 year old girl who have serious issues with trusting people. This is due to both being treated very bad of an emotionally abusing ex (I ended it with him in June), friends that were not there for me when my dad died and generall family constantly letting me down, amongst them my mum.
What I am facing now is that I have been seeing a new guy for almost three months, and he is a good guy. I really like him, and he makes me smile. I am over my ex, it took a while but I still get panic moments that I am choosing the wrong guy again. I feel that I can trust him, however, every 10 days or so I have two days full of panicking moments where I make a problem out of nothing. I am usually alone when I do this, so he doesn't know about this.
How do I get my wall down and trust people again? I am always extremely sceptial of people now, both boys and girls, and I am getting exhausted by it. I want to stop it.
Also, I am afraid of him realising that I am not perfect and that he doesn't like my weaknesses. What my ex did was that he always mentioned by weaknesses, so now I am so aware of them its insane. I am known as the confident one in my girls group, but since my ex I have internal struggles. Just now I got a text from my new boyfriend, and he said that he think its going to be difficult to meet up during the week as he has deadlines and lots of work. Which I already knew, still I choose to look at this as a bad sign. Why am I like this?
I know he likes me a lot etc, I just need to get a grip really because I don't want to make him insecure. How do I do this?
Any advice is welcome... :) Thank you!
Im a 25 year old girl who have serious issues with trusting people. This is due to both being treated very bad of an emotionally abusing ex (I ended it with him in June), friends that were not there for me when my dad died and generall family constantly letting me down, amongst them my mum.
What I am facing now is that I have been seeing a new guy for almost three months, and he is a good guy. I really like him, and he makes me smile. I am over my ex, it took a while but I still get panic moments that I am choosing the wrong guy again. I feel that I can trust him, however, every 10 days or so I have two days full of panicking moments where I make a problem out of nothing. I am usually alone when I do this, so he doesn't know about this.
How do I get my wall down and trust people again? I am always extremely sceptial of people now, both boys and girls, and I am getting exhausted by it. I want to stop it.
Also, I am afraid of him realising that I am not perfect and that he doesn't like my weaknesses. What my ex did was that he always mentioned by weaknesses, so now I am so aware of them its insane. I am known as the confident one in my girls group, but since my ex I have internal struggles. Just now I got a text from my new boyfriend, and he said that he think its going to be difficult to meet up during the week as he has deadlines and lots of work. Which I already knew, still I choose to look at this as a bad sign. Why am I like this?
I know he likes me a lot etc, I just need to get a grip really because I don't want to make him insecure. How do I do this?
Any advice is welcome... :) Thank you!