heartonsleeve
Mar 28, 2011, 10:08 AM
HAving come out of a messy relationship where I was essentially used for sex by my ex whilst he was seeing someone else, I met another man almost two months later.
He seemed like everything I wanted, and he made me believe I was everything he was looking for. He had only been out of his relationship a month (and this was quite messy as it involved selling the house they both owned). She no longer lived there though.
From day one (we were introduced by a mutual friend), we were inseparable. We saw each other almost every night for 5 months. A little intense and excessive I know, but it felt so RIGHT. We went on a couple of mini holidays together, and were discussing going on a bigger holiday abroad. Then, he sells his house, moves into a house share (with his ex girlsfriends parents!! ) and almost over night, he changes.
Started seeing me maybe once a week, despite working in the same road I live in. He still phoned and texted every day, that was no problem. I let it go for a couple of weeks as I thought perhaps he was just getting used to moving house. The first time the new 'situation' was discussed, he claimed he just wanted to make an effort with her parents (she no longer lived there, plus she had new boyfriend AND there was no love lost between them!), and he felt a little awkward about staying over here.
He said he just wanted some routine in his life and a bit of space to sort himself out.
But he implied he still wanted to see me and that he enjoyed spending time with me etc etc.
But, he carried on only seeing me once a week. His texts got less affectionate. I then accused him of cheating on me (the only explanation I could come up with in my head). He swore blind it was nothing to do with that BUT no matter how genuine and honest he says he is, it would just make more sense.
Eventually our relationship ended last week. He said he just wasn't ready for a relationship and he just wanted us to be friends. Still wanted to see me and "do things" but just as friends.
No, I can't do that. I was/am in love with him and the thought of him just wanting to be friends so he can sleep around makes me feel so sad. I am not sleeping as I still have so many questions that rush around my head. I feel like he used me just to stop the loneliness when he was in his big empty house. And now, I have been dropped, just like that. I feel like the biggest fool in the world, and am so scared of ever giving my heart away again :(
He seemed like everything I wanted, and he made me believe I was everything he was looking for. He had only been out of his relationship a month (and this was quite messy as it involved selling the house they both owned). She no longer lived there though.
From day one (we were introduced by a mutual friend), we were inseparable. We saw each other almost every night for 5 months. A little intense and excessive I know, but it felt so RIGHT. We went on a couple of mini holidays together, and were discussing going on a bigger holiday abroad. Then, he sells his house, moves into a house share (with his ex girlsfriends parents!! ) and almost over night, he changes.
Started seeing me maybe once a week, despite working in the same road I live in. He still phoned and texted every day, that was no problem. I let it go for a couple of weeks as I thought perhaps he was just getting used to moving house. The first time the new 'situation' was discussed, he claimed he just wanted to make an effort with her parents (she no longer lived there, plus she had new boyfriend AND there was no love lost between them!), and he felt a little awkward about staying over here.
He said he just wanted some routine in his life and a bit of space to sort himself out.
But he implied he still wanted to see me and that he enjoyed spending time with me etc etc.
But, he carried on only seeing me once a week. His texts got less affectionate. I then accused him of cheating on me (the only explanation I could come up with in my head). He swore blind it was nothing to do with that BUT no matter how genuine and honest he says he is, it would just make more sense.
Eventually our relationship ended last week. He said he just wasn't ready for a relationship and he just wanted us to be friends. Still wanted to see me and "do things" but just as friends.
No, I can't do that. I was/am in love with him and the thought of him just wanting to be friends so he can sleep around makes me feel so sad. I am not sleeping as I still have so many questions that rush around my head. I feel like he used me just to stop the loneliness when he was in his big empty house. And now, I have been dropped, just like that. I feel like the biggest fool in the world, and am so scared of ever giving my heart away again :(