I am really clucky
I love baby's, kids I take care of them all the time.
I think about having my own and having a baby and having a family all the time.
I don't go one day without thinking about it, its crazy.

My partner is the same, were 18 and 19 and both have good jobs own a car each and currently my boyfriend is paying off our house . Should we wait we both are ready to try I have never wanted anything so bad in my life, I have not much of a social life never go out etc.

That's a decision between you and your partner exclusively.

Children can be a wonderful addition to a relationship or the worst nightmare. A lot has to do with the steps you take beforehand. I had noticed you hadn't mentioned husband/wife. That would be a good start. Also saving up some money for a "nest egg" helps a lot. When pregnant the time off work can be suplemented from the nest egg to help you and the baby get off to a good start. If your both thinking about continuing education then try to complete that first. When you plan just remember to be as flexible as possible and try not to set unrealistic goals. And if something comes up treat it as a speedbump and not an obsticle to your goal. Its best to wait until you can afford a child and be set up for a lifetime with your partner so your child has the best possible opportunity in life.

Good Luck.

Sometimes the idea of children and reality are two different things,

What type of life style do you live, do you currently work ?
If so have you planned for day care

If you are use to just jumping up and running to town or having friends over unannounced, practice by having to stop and pack a bag with all sorts of baby items, and not being or wanting to go if the weather is bad and so on.

It changes your life and what you do.

But I would say first how long have you two been living together, after a couple of years, then is a good time to think

You say you have two cars ? Paid for? Are making payments ?

Next of course why don't you and hubby have a social life ?
Who are your friends,

This is you and your partners decision. However I do want to share something.

Being adults, and being fiancially stable, and ready to have a child, all mean nothing when you have a child too young. I had my daughter when I was 19. And though I would not change that for the world NOW, I DO wish I would have waited, to have time to be young, to have fun, to sleep in on weekends, to party weekend nights, to go to movies, go out with friends.
Once you have a child, that changes, and you can't do that anymore. Soon you would find that your only adult contact is with other parents. Your only 'fun' is when you get to take a shower while baby is sleeping. The only sex you have... well... there won't BE any for a while.


Its a big step. And not one to take lightly. Think it through. Having a child now, or waiting, both can offer amazing rewards. You may not be able to go out with friends and party etc etc, but you will be able to be the first person to look that sweet face in the eyes. You will be right there to see that baby smile at you for the first time. While your awake all hours of the night, exhasted and frustrated, all that will melt away when you hear your baby coo and laugh for the first time at 3 am. There is no greater joy in this world than a child to love.

Just make sure this is the RIGHT time for you.

I had gotten pregnant at age 19 and I was a single mother on my own and I made it work, I am now married and my daughter is 6 and my husband and I have 5 kids all together at age 26... the main thing I would say is make sure your job is a stable job and that you leaving for maternity leave is going to be okay also one of the main things most people fight over is how you want to raise a child I would sit down with you partner and figure out what exactly it is that you and him would do in certain situations... you guys have to be together on all the rules and the way you are raising the child... marriage is a big thing to a lot of people and like I said I am married as well but I don't think you have to be married before you have children just as long as you agree on everything and you know that if you two don't stay together for whatever reason you will still get a long for the child... I hope it works out for you two!

Were not married yet, we both own our cars no loans etc. I've never been one to go out and have always been the teen to stay home with family when friends were out partying.

My boyfriend used to be a party addict but since we've been together he hardly goes out, we do have friends that we adore but never go out most that happens is a few drinks somewhere every couple of months

It may work fine for you. I was the same way, at that time I had no interest in partys or hanging out or stuff like that. In fact, when I was in high school and they tried to convince us that we were NOT ready to have chlidren with those crying dolls in home ecenomics, it actually made me want a baby MORE lol. I wanted nothing more out of my life than to be a mom, be married and be a stay at home mom.

But life changes, and life doesn't always go the way you want. And I don't regret having my daughter, but I do wish I could have waited before having a child.