Hello guys/gals how's it going?

I am not a "Newbie" when it comes to dating, however I find myself in a interesting dilemma, and I would like some ladies to chime me in. (btw I'm 23)

Every guy will tell you how hard it is to "Hit" on a girl who is working, and working hard at that! Especially if it's a restaurant/Food providing Café of any kind.

Except... for me. For I'm a very friendly, and an energetic person by nature so most people just can't resist an conversation opener. So in all the times I've had coffee at this place, I have found someone who I thought would be an interesting girl to get to know. But in my attempts I have (by the look of the 3 girls faces,Eye Contact/Reactions I've managed to make it seem like I'm hitting on all the girls except the one I want to get to know the most. And the one I want to know thinks, or thinks she knows that I'm hitting on everyone but her... which irritates me.

Added note: all 3 girls know me buy face and enjoy interacting with me when I get the chance.

SO... what Am I doing wrong?

Am I simply assuming too much? And continue to keep on the course at hand?

Or

Dial down my Energetic self, and avoid all contact as much as possible with the others, and try to only get cashiered by the one I want?

Or

I'm an idiot, and you lovely ladies have a better course of action.


PS: if not enough info is given let me know what I'm leaving out and I will say more.

Thank you ahead of time.

Why not just ask the one you want for her number, and dial it back with the others? Play it straight, no games.

She either goes for it, or she won't.

From reading your post you sound like the biggest flirt/charmer ever! LOL and I personally am turned off by this kind of guy, even though you may just think your being friendly and there's nothing wrong with what your doing you sound like a ladies man and this isn't something I would want to pursue.

Girls love attention and they love to feel special, they especially like to be made feel special and number one by a guy everyone wants and likes to be around. So as Tal said dial it down with the others, don't be unfriendly, a polite hello and goodbye is fine and start having chats with this lady. Good luck! Let us know how you get on...

It could be that she has no interest in you, or she already is attached to someone else.

Be straight it up, why waste time playing games when you could know your answer today.

Thank you AdvicsIsHere, your answer answered my post perfectly, that's what I wanted to know. If I was coming off as this "flirty charmer person", and needed to tone it down. Also thank you for the other posts advice Talaniman, and RedHead35... hmmm that name sounds like Ive seen that screen name somewhere else...

Not playing games this is just how I am.

SO I will tone it down just to the "base" politeness to the others, and ask the other one out.

Simple, elegant, intriguing I like... lets go it! Err I mean... ill do it... but TY all.

I find just being direct and asking them out for coffee or asking for a number

It's a little harder when they are behind a Register and coffee is 3 feet to their left. But yea... I've got it covered... if I haven't made the situation unfixable at this point.