Ok, so I'm 17, and so is my boyfriend, Adam. I've been going out with Adam for almost two years, now, but I've known him since second grade (We're seniors). He's the nicest, sweetest, funniest person I know, and he's gotten me through the worst parts of my life, and always been there for me, and I really, really love him. (And please don't say I can't love him just because I'm young.) Well, we've both always been really good kids; never drank, or smoked, or done drugs, or partied. We're also both virgins, as I only had one other boyfriend, and he had only one other girlfriend before we went out with each other, and those relationships were short and not very serious. I've been raised very strictly, and was always told to wait to have sex until marriage, but I've come to believe (after a LOT of thinking; trust me) that you can have sex before marriage, as long as you really love the person. Adam sort of shares the same beliefs as me with this, and has voiced that he wants to lose his virginity to me, and that it's hard to resist, but he won't push me if I'm not ready. He's always really respectful, and he's never tried anything with me.

Lately though, I've been thinking I'm ready to take our relationship further. Whenever he kisses me, I want to tear his clothes off (and sorry to put that so bluntly, but I don't know what else to say. Lol). Last night, he was at my house, and my mom went out shopping. We started making out downstairs, and he had pulled off his shirt, as well as mine, and my bra. We went upstairs to my room, and he stripped me down to my underwear, and I know he was really hard, because I was sitting on his lap. I got his jeans off, and his boxers, and I ended up giving him a bl*wjob. He started taking my underwear off, but just then, we heard the garage door open, and we had to throw our clothes back on quickly before my mom came in. Now I can't stop thinking about it... About his face when I pleasured him. I can't stop thinking about it, and sorry again, to be so blunt, but I've been continually getting off just thinking about it all day. I really wanted things to keep going last night, but there was no time, so now I'm really anxious for the next time we get the chance. I'm sort of shy about initiating things, even though I'm totally comfortable around him, and so I'm worried that he won't initiate sex, because he's SO respectful that he'd worry he's pushing me into it. He's also sort of shy, at times. So my question is, how can I initiate it when I'm so shy about it? Any pointers? What should I do? Do you think he might take the initiative now, as things have changed a bit?

You initiate sex when you have a good paying job and can afford to raise a child. There is no form of birth control that is 100% effective.

It would be unethical for us to tell a minor, who is not prepared to raise a child, how to initiate sex with her minor boyfriend.