My boyfriend and I are 14 and we really want to have sex, but our friends are so immature and would hate us, our parents are wicked strict, and It's illegal in our state :'( what do I do?? :(

Wait until you are married. (I did.)

Get high marks in school, join clubs that interest you, belong to a church and get involved there, and do chores at home for free. Bake lots of brownies and cookies for your family, and sew your own clothes. That's what worked for me.

I could give you a ton of reasons to wait until you're older, but I'm going to go for the easy answer:

It's illegal, so don't do it. Where do you live? If it's illegal to have sex at your age, why do it? You can wait a couple of years and then avoid most of the ramifications that you fear right now.

If you need, I could talk about the other issues: such as teen pregnancy, stds, emotional health, etc. But maybe, the law is enough to convince you. Do you want to be a criminal at 14? If your friends, family, AND the cops are telling you that you're not ready... try and see their point.

I hope you make the right decisions!

Thanks soooo much for the info! But the only problem is we love each other! Soooooo much! And my real mom (not my step mom) said as long as I felt this way she would give me birth control and him condoms and everything, soooo what should I do now?

If you aren't ready for a baby, don't have sex.

This site is full of questions from young girls (your age) who suddenly find themselves pregnant, who didn't believe it would happen to them, who may have been on two kinds of birth control. We get two or more questions like that every day -- "am I pregnant?"

Don't be one of those girls. You want to have a teenage with freedom and fun -- not be stuck at home caring for a crying baby. (No, they're not always cuddly and cute.)

And yeah, it's illegal at your age.

I find it hilarious that you think your friends are immature because they think it would be wrong for you to have sex! In fact they sound very mature to me! Listen to your friends... none of my friends listened to me when they went and had sex and every single one of them have children now and there's no sign of a father and they're pretty much broke. I waited until now (24) to settle down and get pregnant and I'm still extremely scared! Your never prepared to have kids and being 14 I can't begin to imagine the worries that you would go through, my sister got pregnant at 15 and I promise you now that it was the hardest thing to just watch. Never mind having to be a teenage mother! So please wait! Your not ready at 14, I'm not even ready at 24

It can't be said enough that every time
You have sex you risk getting pregnant.

The only sure way to avoid getting pregnant
Is do not have sex.

A baby in your life right now would cause you
To miss some of the best times of your life.
And these are things you need to do to mature
And grow and learn about people and life.

It ia a wonderful thing to love someone but
Why tie yourself down to one? Date a lot of guys
And experience the differences . (In a year or three)

Sex is a beautiful experience IF you are ready
Mentally and physically , and at 14 you are not.
You stand to ruin what has the potential to be
One of the greatest experiences in in your life.

It is worth waiting for.

As much as you feel you are in love now,
It is only the beginning . It gets stronger
As you learn what it really is.

When the time is right it's heaven ,
When it's not it creates hell.

No One should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are financially, physically and emotionally prepared to have a child. You don't qualify in ANY of those three.

Sex is not a recreation. It is something to be shared between two people who have a long and committed relationship. At 14 you can't have been with your boyfriend very long and while I'm sure you think you "ove each other! soooooo much! " but you will probably feel that way several times before you become an adult.

As to your mom, she may be being realistic, but she is also being irresponsible. I'm assuming she feels you are going to sneak around and do it anyway so you should at least be protected. But she should be discouraging you from doing it. You are still a child and you need to grow up before you engage in adult behavior.

Thanks soooo much for all this feedback, it was actually my friend who was wondering and she and her boyfriend have decided to wait. Thank you soooo much for helping her!