We knew each other growing up and even dated for a week in 7th grade when she broke up with me for kissing her lol. We starting talking again, 15 years later, on Facebook after my last girlfriend and I broke up (she cheated on me and moved away) and that is when I found out that I was her first kiss and she had never forgotten about me.

I have been dating this girl (we are both 29) for 2 months now and at first things where going great. Her, her 2 boys (ages 3 and 9), and I would hang out usually 5-6 days a week and I would stay the night at her house on those nights. The boys and I get along better then anyone she has ever been with, she said it herself. We have slept together and there were no problems in that area, we were both more then satisfied.

She has been burned a lot in the past and says she really tries not to hold the guys of her past against me but now she wants to slow things way down and only have me over on weekends which for her is Saturday day and night and Sunday day so only one and a half days. Texting has slowed way down too. I had to increase my text limit at the start of the relationship because we would constantly text but now she never texts me and takes forever to respond to my texts and when she does she says she tired and going to bed, because we usually would text at night. I know that her kids come first and that it will always be that way and I'm not wanting that to change but shouldn't there be a better balance between her kids and having a relationship with me?

I know that we would never cheat on each other so that's not a factor but this relationship is going a bit too slow for me. I don't want to break up and could see a real long term relationship with this girl and her kids if she will let me in and stop with all the limitations. She has said that "you are just the boyfriend and that's what I NEED you to be." So I'm really trying to abide by her rules and wait until we slowly start to speed things up, if ever, but it is so hard to to stay away from and talk very little to someone that I care so much about.

What can I do besides breaking up or just waiting it out?

I know that her kids come first and that it will always be that way and I'm not wanting that to change but shouldn't there be a better balance between her kids and having a relationship with me?

You are just a boyfriend, of a few months, her kids are her priority forever, whether the two of you make it as a couple or not. I think its way to soon to be making those kinds of demands on her time, or priorities. That happens when you get with a female with kids. Often they don't want a parade of guys coming in and out of their lives, and she has their upbringing to consider.

You have other options if you don't like the very clear boundaries she has set, with her kids being the first priority, you can leave and date others, but its unrealistic for her to meet your every need, so soon in the dating process.