View Full Version : How to get a guy back that says he's not ready for a relationship right now?
sadchick
Mar 16, 2011, 04:29 PM
Can you get a guy back that says he not ready for a relationship right now what dose that mean?
He sent me an email Every day and we went out once a week for two months but now he says he's not ready and doesn't know what he wants he says he is a little lost right and needs to get himself figured out and get back on track, any ideas on what all that means. He is shy and reserved and had his heart broke really bad 5 years ago by his ex. But my hell its been 5 years and he's still not ready?? Please give me your thoughts. I really miss him and want him back
talaniman
Mar 16, 2011, 06:56 PM
You are ready, willing, able, and eager. For whatever reason, he is not, so stop trying to make him eager.
This is where you walk away, and leave him to his searching for himself, and you move on to enjoy yourself.
Wondergirl
Mar 16, 2011, 07:20 PM
he says he is a little lost right and needs to get him self figured out and get back on track, any ideas on what all that means.
It means he is a little lost right now and needs to get himself figured out and get back on track.
Leave him alone. Read a book or do your schoolwork or bake a batch of chocolate chip cookies. Give him air.
amicon
Mar 17, 2011, 01:42 AM
He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and you can't force him.
Time to go do your own thing and meet people who aren't confused and stuck in their pasts.
sadchick
Mar 17, 2011, 06:06 PM
I know I should just leave him alone but I don't understand if he didn't what to be with me why did he send me an email every night with out fail. And he went out with me when ever I asked. I told him I wanted to start over and just date and he still said that he's not ready for a relationship. I wonder if he is just scared cause he was staring to have feelings for me? Should I just leave him alone for a few weeks then text him just to say hi or something? I'm heartbroken over this and feel its my fault cause I was being too needy asking him about his feelings for me. And I told him I missed him. I thnk that pushed him over the edge. It seemed like things were going good, we had sex twice and he seemed to be into me at 1st then he just started to get distant. Thanks for your advice.
talaniman
Mar 17, 2011, 06:25 PM
Sex does not mean he is into you, just is into lust. Even if he was nice about it. Sorry for your heart break, but get beyond it and you will and learn from the experience.