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jrconfused
Mar 16, 2011, 04:18 PM

jenniepepsi
Mar 16, 2011, 04:21 PM
Yes its possible. People have been known to do EVERYTHING in their sleep. Eating, watching TV, holding conversations, actually HAVING sex.

I would suggest you start by speaking to your doctor about it.

jrconfused
Mar 16, 2011, 04:26 PM
Iwill elobrate on the issue, I had issue of watching porn, I am in process of refusing it. But as of last night my wife told me that sh found porn on my computer between the house of 2-3am. Well I laid down with her around 1ish, and around 3ish I woke up aroused an we had sex. Now she said that I got out of bed around that time, well its on the computer timestamped so I am not denying it, but at the same time and as crazy as this sounds I have no recolation of getting up and looking at any porn. Am I crazy because she thinks I am lying, but I am trying to turn my life around and do better but this isn't helping, any sugestions?

martinizing2
Mar 16, 2011, 04:51 PM
iwill elobrate on the issue, i had issue of watching porn, i am in process of refusing it. but as of last nite my wife told me that sh found porn on my computer between the house of 2-3am. well i laid down with her around 1ish, and around 3ish i woke up aroused an we had sex. now she said that i got out of bed around that time, well its on the computer timestamped so i am not denying it, but at the same time and as crazy as this sounds i have no recolation of getting up and looking at any porn. Am i crazy because she thinks i am lying, but i am trying to turn my life around and do better but this isnt helping, any sugestions?

I can understand why she may doubt your story.

Have you ever walked in your sleep before?

If there is no history of previous instances , and
With you swearing off porn (which says it has been an issue in your relationship) for it to occur now is most unfortunate.

Given these circumstances , I find it hard to believe and
Without accusing you of anything would suggest that if
It happens that you just got caught , be honest.

What was your porn problem that led to you being here?

jrconfused
Mar 16, 2011, 05:26 PM
Seeing if that was possible, becausei have no issue admitting to her and I own up to it when it is on the computer but the simply fact that I can not own up to this frazzles me. And yes I agree it sounds unreal but yes it has been a issue in the past and this is one time I ma being honest but feel it's a losing batttle because of past accidents.

martinizing2
Mar 16, 2011, 05:30 PM
We are all victims of our past actions.

Yours has come up at a bad time.

What was the previous porn issue?

Because someone does not like you watching porn
Does not make it wrong necessarily.

jrconfused
Mar 16, 2011, 05:47 PM
I agree it came at a bad time. And honestly I do not blame her for not beliving me, as far as previous it was common, I just don't clear the history, and something pops up when she gets on the computer and she looks into it. But as I sated before I have admitted to every time in which, I don't deny it and she prefers that we watch it togather, she feels that that is the only way that I can get aroused to have sex wth her. I have no intetnions on hurting her feelings but she tells me it brings her down. But this past time I have no explanation for it because I can not recall it and in which she's calmed down about it but it bothers me because I am trying to improve my way of life and then something lke this comes up, I can tell she wants to beliv eme but at the same time it is hard. There has been no cheating with other people in our relationship and I have no intentions on ever cheating on her. But the issue of it happening while I was asleep is what it bothering me the most, because I am not going to own up to something I did not do, but at the same time I see her point o fbeing upset.

martinizing2
Mar 16, 2011, 06:33 PM
Then it will boil down to if she chooses to believe you or not.

You should not have to own up to watching porn occasionally , men do that. If not all then 99.99%.

Maybe you should take this to a professional counselor. That could help her understand that porn is not a big deal , and may help you both understand that we can do a lot in our sleep.

I think you are at a point that your relationship that
Some major problems may be avoided by going to a professional.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 16, 2011, 07:11 PM
Allow her to put a porn blocker on your computer, Lock the computer so it can not be used at night and so on.

QLP
Mar 17, 2011, 06:23 PM
As Jenni says people can do all sorts of things in their sleep, these sleep behaviours are known as parasomnias. As an example people can find out they eat in their sleep. People can often reduce their incidence of sleep eating by making sure they eat an adequate healthy diet during the day. Many of them have resorted to eating less during the day to compensate for what they eat at night only to find it makes the problem worse.

Unconscious bingeing in the dead of night (http://www.sleepdex.org/a6.htm)

So my guess would be that the very fact you are trying to deny yourself the porn is what has triggered this.

People having sex in their sleep also happens, and that can obviously cause problems.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_sex

For this reason I think you should get some medical advice in case the problem escalates. Also, drinking and stress make parasomnia more likely so look at these aspects in your life.

Finally, are you trying to limit your porn watching because it had got out of hand, in which case you might view this as a sort of addiction withdrawal? Or is this because of different opinions between yourself and your partner regarding porn? Maybe your subconsious refuses to accept your decision if you feel you have been pushed into something you aren't happy about.