View Full Version : Accidentally offended my gay friend
Bunnyrabbit2310
Mar 14, 2011, 04:44 PM
He's always sensitive about the littlest things. I said he seemed too gay to play a straight guy in a play. He said excuse me but I'm offended. I'm an actor and I'm able to play any role. Do you know what an actor is? It's the ability to play every role. And I've played straight characters. And you haven't seen me on stage. And I said I know I haven't but from seeing you everyday it's just hard to imagine you playing any role. And he said bye and I said I've never seen you act so I don't know! And he said OK then why the he'll would you say to your "friend" that you can't imagine them playing any role... When you know I love acting. That's rude offensive and mean and I said I'm just saying that I can't picture what you would look like when you act I didn't mean to offend and I didn't mean cause your gay I couldn't picture what you would look like acting I couldn't picture anyone acting but I'm sure your great. And he didn't text back after that and I don't know what to do now cause I really didn't mean to offend him.
talaniman
Mar 14, 2011, 05:08 PM
Leave him alone to get over it. The dust will settle, and when it does, you better go see him act, you may be surprised.
Friends support friends, not knock them. Give it some time and apologize for being an unthinking... fill in the blank..!
Fr_Chuck
Mar 14, 2011, 06:05 PM
Yes, that was very rude, and something a hateful and mean person says, this is not something a friend would say to their friend.
So yes they have a reason to be mad, I would leave them alone for a bit, and hope they get over it.
Bunnyrabbit2310
Mar 14, 2011, 07:16 PM
So I apologized and it's good now.
Fr_Chuck
Mar 14, 2011, 07:48 PM
On the surface, I am sure he is still hurt, these types of pain never completely heal, But remember don't say words you don't mean,
Bunnyrabbit2310
Mar 14, 2011, 08:03 PM
Ya I just said the wrong words it wasn't supposed to come out mean
Bunnyrabbit2310
Mar 23, 2011, 03:13 PM
Me and my friend were talking about when we were going to hang together. And then my gay friend says you're not going to invite me. And we were saying it's a sleepover and my parents wouldn't let him stay. So I said he could come and then leave later. But he didn't say anything and ignored us the rest of lunch. He texted me later saying why are guys planning stuff without me and that we made it sound like we were doing stuff without him and made him feel left out and sad and I said sorry we didn't mean to make you feel left out and he said we do that a lot and I said like when and he said at lunch we leave him out of our conversations and I said we can't all talk together all the time and he said so your saying I'm not aloud to join in on your conversation and I said no you could if you want to but you don't but you could and he said but I don't know what y'all are talking about half of the time because I'm not in the loop so it really makes no sense to try to understand and then I didn't text him back because it was ridiculous. Then on the bus he sat with another girl on purpose instead of sitting with us. Then he started texting my friend saying the same stuff and she just said he's a acting like we can't hang out separtly and while me and her are talking he's usually talking to the other girl at are table and he didn't text back after that. So that was yesterday and today he didn't sit with my friend on the bus in the morning and didn't sit with us at lunch or talk to us at all. So we don't know what to tell him because we think it's ridiculous.
talaniman
Mar 23, 2011, 05:03 PM
It is ridicules, and he is acting like an over sensitive snit. Leave him alone, as he is free to hang with whomever he wants. Let him, and go about your own business. He is a bit of a drama queen isn't he? He seems to be easily offended when he doesn't get the right attention.
Fr_Chuck
Mar 23, 2011, 06:13 PM
I know that of course you are saying "gay friend" since you need to explain him,
But do you use those words in normal life ? I have a few friends who are gay, but I have never referred to them as "gay friends"
Next why would he not be allowed to sleep over, why would your parents not allow him, if other friends are sleeping over
Bunnyrabbit2310
Mar 23, 2011, 06:33 PM
It's just one friend that's sleeping over and he can't because just cause he's gay he's still a guy
Bunnyrabbit2310
Mar 23, 2011, 06:36 PM
Omg talaniman you hit the nail on the head he is such a drama queen