CorieMike
Mar 14, 2011, 12:56 PM
My Second Chance Letter
Hi I have been working on this letter for quite some time and would like to know people's honest opinion on it. I haven't given my ex this letter yet but I really want to after a period of no contact. Please comment on it, good or bad. Kind of long but please give it a chance and let me know what you think I should leave out. The intention of this letter is to get my ex to intiate contact with me again, that's all. Yes there are those who believe moving on is for the best but when you hurt someone you love, you fight for them. If love isn't worth fighting for than what is anyway...
Feel free to use any part of this letter if you think it will help.
Hi (Her Name). I wanted to say thanks again for all the time you gave me to think things over. I have a whole new perspective on things and have to say, I totally agree with your decision. Time apart was really what we needed. It was the right choice to make. I think moving on may be best for now and if we are meant to be, we will. Well I know all the bad feelings you must have towards me. I accept that. But you've helped me to grow so much and for that I am truly grteful. Thanks to you, I spend a lot more time improving myself. I can't thank you enough. Finally everything makes sense. I was so fixated on talking things over with you before, so emotionally attached, I couldn't see how much space we needed apart and how needy I was becoming. It was hard to give you what you wanted before. I guess I was taken back by how fast we were drifting apart. Not the end of the world lol but I just didn't want to lose what we had. So despite how bad I took things, I hope you understand. After all we did invest a lot in each other. I never wanted us to become strangers but I understand. I was so overwhelmed with my own feelings before, I never considered yours. I never acted so clingy before. Lol I guess Im no good at goodbyes. Well I've finally got my emotions under control. So don't worry about me sending gifts, letters and emails. They were not an attempt to win you back but to show you I still care. Maybe I'm a fool for it but I hope you appreciated it. I will leave you alone. I know it's what you want. Plus I realise have been going about this entire break up the wrong way. It was wrong to get your family and friends involved and not give you the space you needed. I understand you would not want a relationship like that. Instead of respecting your decision, I panicked. Im sorry but I just didn't want to lose my best friend.
I think its obvious things ended badly between us. I know the way I acted, showed I was only considering my own feelings, confirmed your decision and made you come to dislike me. I know you weren't happy for a while; I take full responsibility for that. I could have done better by you and would have if I had the chance again. I know how much you cared. I was only trying to make up for my wrong and make you happy again. I never realised space was all you really needed. Now I just want you to know I support your decision to move on 100%, even if it hurts. It's okay with me. I didn't want it before but I owe it to you to let go. It was wrong to pressure you into talking things out. I realise your decision was premeditated for some time and I know confessing my mistakes and acting so depressed would have only confirmed things. I understand why you have cut all lines of communication between us and I want you to know you made the right choice. I also want you to know as unbelievable as it seems, I only wanted back the friendship part of the relationship we once had. No more, no less. But I understand you would think I want more. I totally respect that. I know if you don't respect me or if you are still hurt then you may need more time. So I will give us what we need. But on the bright side, a lot of great things came out of our breakup. I've been able to put on weight, see all my short comings and Ive started becoming more proactive, mature and a lot more insightful. I'd love to fill you in, when the time is right… I feel like you've helped open up a whole new world for me. I can't thank you enough. Im taking things slow though, I think that would be best. Your mom was nice enough to give me that piece of advice too. You've helped me to let go. You're a true friend. You made me so much stronger and wiser. Not that it matters now, but I won't be getting emotionally attached to anyone, there's still some unresolved feelings I need to deal with by myself. Otherwise, I think it would do me more harm than good. But I can see myself ready for a serious relationship one day, I just need to spend some more time working on myself.
I have a new perspective on what women need and how to make relationships last. I know there may be some unresolved feelings between us whether you want to talk about them or not. I just want you to know there are no hard feelings from my end. I understand completely why you chose to move this way. I realise you do not care about me the way you used to and its okay with me. I know not everything lasts but in the end, I saw the beauty in us and the positive impact it had on my life. You've changed the way I view relationships and myself. I believe God put you in my life to help me grow into a better man and as much as I want a relationship that lasts, I still need to work on myself before I can have that. I know we're still young, it would be wrong of me if I kept us from experiencing life apart. I am glad I met you and this time Im ready to give you a proper apology. I was unfaithful, I lied for months, I left you alone, embarrassed you, made you feel guilty, betrayed your trust and took your love for granted. I made a lot of post break up mistakes, smoked in front you and disregarded your feelings on it. I know you were only looking out for my health. I've been repetitive and overly defensive. Always justifying my actions without accepting my wrong. Most of all, I did not take the time to appreciate all the things you did for me like I used to. I know all this time you only wanted me to treat you right. For all that and for hurting you, I am truly sorry. Mistakes I promise myself, I will never make again. It's only normal you would think I don't appreciate all you did. I've thought of a million ways to show you otherwise. Maybe someday you'll see. I didn't want to bring up my wrongs again but I realise an apology should be specific and sincere. I know how you must have felt and you have every right to move on. I know I was not the best boyfriend but I will be better. So I just want you to know I take full responsibility for the break up and for not appreciating you like I used to. It's not that I didn't. I always did. I just realise I should have shown you more. I forgot how much a woman needs to feel appreciated. You were always special to me. You were second to none. I know your friends would always remind you of my wrongs, I just hope when you heal, you learn to forgive me and see the good in me again. I understand things a lot better now and I realise sometimes two people have to go their own way sometimes despite the love in their hearts. You will always have the biggest part of me. Loving you has been one of the best times of my life. Thanks again. You helped me to completely get over the breakup and move on with my life. Things are going great for me these days. Just when I was at my lowest, things finally started to look up for me. It gave me hope again. I hope things are great with you too. I finally accept the way things ended surprisingly. Maybe sometime in the future after we had some more time apart we can have a casual conversation and I can tell you about all the great things that have been happening for me. It would be nice to hear from you again. Maybe at some point we can be friends. But no pressure when you think you're ready.
(me)
Hi I have been working on this letter for quite some time and would like to know people's honest opinion on it. I haven't given my ex this letter yet but I really want to after a period of no contact. Please comment on it, good or bad. Kind of long but please give it a chance and let me know what you think I should leave out. The intention of this letter is to get my ex to intiate contact with me again, that's all. Yes there are those who believe moving on is for the best but when you hurt someone you love, you fight for them. If love isn't worth fighting for than what is anyway...
Feel free to use any part of this letter if you think it will help.
Hi (Her Name). I wanted to say thanks again for all the time you gave me to think things over. I have a whole new perspective on things and have to say, I totally agree with your decision. Time apart was really what we needed. It was the right choice to make. I think moving on may be best for now and if we are meant to be, we will. Well I know all the bad feelings you must have towards me. I accept that. But you've helped me to grow so much and for that I am truly grteful. Thanks to you, I spend a lot more time improving myself. I can't thank you enough. Finally everything makes sense. I was so fixated on talking things over with you before, so emotionally attached, I couldn't see how much space we needed apart and how needy I was becoming. It was hard to give you what you wanted before. I guess I was taken back by how fast we were drifting apart. Not the end of the world lol but I just didn't want to lose what we had. So despite how bad I took things, I hope you understand. After all we did invest a lot in each other. I never wanted us to become strangers but I understand. I was so overwhelmed with my own feelings before, I never considered yours. I never acted so clingy before. Lol I guess Im no good at goodbyes. Well I've finally got my emotions under control. So don't worry about me sending gifts, letters and emails. They were not an attempt to win you back but to show you I still care. Maybe I'm a fool for it but I hope you appreciated it. I will leave you alone. I know it's what you want. Plus I realise have been going about this entire break up the wrong way. It was wrong to get your family and friends involved and not give you the space you needed. I understand you would not want a relationship like that. Instead of respecting your decision, I panicked. Im sorry but I just didn't want to lose my best friend.
I think its obvious things ended badly between us. I know the way I acted, showed I was only considering my own feelings, confirmed your decision and made you come to dislike me. I know you weren't happy for a while; I take full responsibility for that. I could have done better by you and would have if I had the chance again. I know how much you cared. I was only trying to make up for my wrong and make you happy again. I never realised space was all you really needed. Now I just want you to know I support your decision to move on 100%, even if it hurts. It's okay with me. I didn't want it before but I owe it to you to let go. It was wrong to pressure you into talking things out. I realise your decision was premeditated for some time and I know confessing my mistakes and acting so depressed would have only confirmed things. I understand why you have cut all lines of communication between us and I want you to know you made the right choice. I also want you to know as unbelievable as it seems, I only wanted back the friendship part of the relationship we once had. No more, no less. But I understand you would think I want more. I totally respect that. I know if you don't respect me or if you are still hurt then you may need more time. So I will give us what we need. But on the bright side, a lot of great things came out of our breakup. I've been able to put on weight, see all my short comings and Ive started becoming more proactive, mature and a lot more insightful. I'd love to fill you in, when the time is right… I feel like you've helped open up a whole new world for me. I can't thank you enough. Im taking things slow though, I think that would be best. Your mom was nice enough to give me that piece of advice too. You've helped me to let go. You're a true friend. You made me so much stronger and wiser. Not that it matters now, but I won't be getting emotionally attached to anyone, there's still some unresolved feelings I need to deal with by myself. Otherwise, I think it would do me more harm than good. But I can see myself ready for a serious relationship one day, I just need to spend some more time working on myself.
I have a new perspective on what women need and how to make relationships last. I know there may be some unresolved feelings between us whether you want to talk about them or not. I just want you to know there are no hard feelings from my end. I understand completely why you chose to move this way. I realise you do not care about me the way you used to and its okay with me. I know not everything lasts but in the end, I saw the beauty in us and the positive impact it had on my life. You've changed the way I view relationships and myself. I believe God put you in my life to help me grow into a better man and as much as I want a relationship that lasts, I still need to work on myself before I can have that. I know we're still young, it would be wrong of me if I kept us from experiencing life apart. I am glad I met you and this time Im ready to give you a proper apology. I was unfaithful, I lied for months, I left you alone, embarrassed you, made you feel guilty, betrayed your trust and took your love for granted. I made a lot of post break up mistakes, smoked in front you and disregarded your feelings on it. I know you were only looking out for my health. I've been repetitive and overly defensive. Always justifying my actions without accepting my wrong. Most of all, I did not take the time to appreciate all the things you did for me like I used to. I know all this time you only wanted me to treat you right. For all that and for hurting you, I am truly sorry. Mistakes I promise myself, I will never make again. It's only normal you would think I don't appreciate all you did. I've thought of a million ways to show you otherwise. Maybe someday you'll see. I didn't want to bring up my wrongs again but I realise an apology should be specific and sincere. I know how you must have felt and you have every right to move on. I know I was not the best boyfriend but I will be better. So I just want you to know I take full responsibility for the break up and for not appreciating you like I used to. It's not that I didn't. I always did. I just realise I should have shown you more. I forgot how much a woman needs to feel appreciated. You were always special to me. You were second to none. I know your friends would always remind you of my wrongs, I just hope when you heal, you learn to forgive me and see the good in me again. I understand things a lot better now and I realise sometimes two people have to go their own way sometimes despite the love in their hearts. You will always have the biggest part of me. Loving you has been one of the best times of my life. Thanks again. You helped me to completely get over the breakup and move on with my life. Things are going great for me these days. Just when I was at my lowest, things finally started to look up for me. It gave me hope again. I hope things are great with you too. I finally accept the way things ended surprisingly. Maybe sometime in the future after we had some more time apart we can have a casual conversation and I can tell you about all the great things that have been happening for me. It would be nice to hear from you again. Maybe at some point we can be friends. But no pressure when you think you're ready.
(me)