View Full Version : Peer pressure-should I or shouldn't I?
Rose_Hathaway
Mar 14, 2011, 09:32 AM
So I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend who is also 14 dated for two days and we have been playing 20 questions-a dirty version. He was asking stuff like would I show him my vagina and I wa saying no a lot, so then we dated then we broke up and now he's asking where we can do dirty stuff so I can give him a handjob and stuff.
I don't think I like him like that anymore and I think he still likes me and I have never done any dirty stuff like that before but he doesn't know that and I don't want to tell him that. We only text or talk online but don't talk in person because we hang around with different groups. I don't feel very comfortable doing any of that stuff and he was being serious about it and we have only been talking for about a week. So what should I do? I really need to know quick because I'm supposed to meet him this week but I don't want to. Help?
adviceishere
Mar 14, 2011, 10:11 AM
You tell him to get lost! Don't do anything with him, you WILL regret it, your much too young and you don't want to do it, never ever EVER give in to peer pressure. You also say you text a lot, well I will just give you one word of warning, do not send him any explicit texts or photos.
Mikis
Mar 14, 2011, 11:00 AM
Now listen. You have answerd your own question. You don't like him and you don't wan do it. The reason teenagers are discouraged from sexual relationship is because their social identity is not yet formed. Teens grow quick and their views on society and relationship change rapidly as new information and experieces flood in. I know this because I am fresh out of my teen years.
Also, every action has a consequece of some sort and you have to calculate if it is worth it. Now if you decline nothing will happen. Maybe the guy will be unhappy and rag on you but that's about it. If you accept then you have to ask yoursef how you will see yourself in the future. Will you be proud or humiliated. Do you want to submit and fulfill the wishes of a horny punk who has the brain of a child and a libido of Clinton and who most likely doesn't give a damn about your feelings? Come on girl you're worth more than that! I am a guy and I know how boys think. To tell you the truth at that age they seldom think. They care more about their rep. So most likely aftewards he would go about braging how he did it with you. I doubt that's what you want.
Remember what you do as a young girl will strongly influence what woman you will become in the future. And trust me memories don't get lost in time and the scars of humiliation don't heal.
Just tell the guy to keep dreaming! And if he gets aggressive tell your parents.
Best of luck to you!
Diana2O11
Mar 14, 2011, 11:22 AM
Don't do it if you don't like him send him off is the best choice b//c you are qoinq too reqret later in life..
talaniman
Mar 14, 2011, 12:33 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/dating-ex-boyfriends-friend-bad-561827.html
Same guy who wants to keep things a secret?? No wonder you posted this
One,https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/relationship-issues-weird-562174.html,
Don't let these guys talk you into anything, and you better stand your ground against questionable bad behavior. If you let them treat you with disrespect, that's on YOU, not them, and for sure they will disrespect you. Just like this jerk.
Mikis
Mar 14, 2011, 01:17 PM
See what I mean that teens have no solid personal standpoint when it comes to relationships and social behaviour. Your constant search for reassurance gives away your inexperiance and immaturity. Which by no means is anything to be ashamed of. None of us are born wise in the ways of men. Relationships are difficult ant tricky. Even I was infatuated by a girl once and I am a rational fellow. Almost lost my head.
So my advice is cool it with the relatinship marathon. If you rush you will make mistakes which not always can be undone. Don't be afraid to be more inquisitive. Talk to experienced people about relationships. Try your parents or grandparents first. Its perfectly normal to talk about those things with the family and believe me their knowlage is not out of date as you may think.
And forget about that dip**** boyfriend of yours!