ccabr003
Mar 13, 2011, 08:37 PM
I have seen many posts on this type of thing and I feel like I should get my answers from others but I have a slightly different situation then what I have found.
My girlfriend and I are in love. We have been dating off and on for about 3 yrs now. And when I say off and on, I mean off and on and ill explain why.
she and I met at a college party, and that is probably a sign in self of what is yet to come. We meet, we hang out, get drunk, make out some. But that's as far as it goes the first night. She expresses she wants to hang out more and I agree. We hang out again, turns out she's a smoker, I am not. Never have and never will. She also is into drugs, mostly weed, but tried others like E and cocaine. Not my thing either. But we had another drunken night, had sex and it was fun. That morning, we are talking and turns out I am her 32nd partner. She's 18, I'm 21. She had double my number, and I thought mine was high at 16. I tried to get past it and couldn't. So I stopped talking to her. We weren't dating so it wasn't much. I figured shed send a few messages, ask why I don't talk to her. And then eventually find a new sex friend in a week.
weeks pass and she sends me a text during xmas break, she's pregnant and isn't sure if its mine or one of two other guys'. I panic as expected and then after I calmed down we talked. We figured chronologically, it can't be mine. But after all that time, we had developed a friendship and even more. I started to like her, she liked me. Long story short we end up long distance dating since I went back to school and she dropped out to go to a local community college. We talked and all for all through her pregnancy and discovered we loved each other. She had quit smoking because of her pregnancy and planned to stay away from them. Which made me happy. We had our kinks here and there with her past but I got pasted them for the most part.
we go on through her pregnancy and hang out and all but then later on, the distance was getting to us. She wanted me to add the title of girlfriend and boyfriend to our relationship. I didn't want to because I was so far away and knew I would get too attached to her and stop paying attention to my school, I was one semester from graduating. Needless to say it was not my top priority to have a girlfriend. The night of her 21st birthday she gets drunk and cries that I wasn't there, blah blah blah. But then we get in a fight a few days later and she tells me she was actually crying because she was trying to hook up with some guy and he said no. so we break up, I called her some harsh names and didn't speak to her for 8 months.
I graduated and moved home, and got the random idea to talk to her again. We talked and found out she was still single and so was I. we decide to give another shot. But first she had to quit smoking cigs since I didn't and don't want to be around it. She says she's quit and I mostly believe her. And her past, as much as I have trouble with it, I have mostly gotten past it.
the 2 issues I have are these, we for a while thought the baby could have been mine even after discussing it so long ago because the original alleged father, wasn't. And now its kind of sickening to think that I might have been, I got all attached to the idea, then turns out its not. But here is the major issue I am having: the other night we are in bed talking before we go to bed after a nice evening together and we are talking about a guy in my frat I was in with. Turns out, one of the 32 she had sex with... was a him. Not only was he a brother, he was a pledge brother. And I am not one to share girls like a t shirt. I feel that once a close friend has had a girl, she is off limits. Trouble is, I didn't know this about her and now I am madly in love with her, her daughter, her family and her with mine. What do I do?
My girlfriend and I are in love. We have been dating off and on for about 3 yrs now. And when I say off and on, I mean off and on and ill explain why.
she and I met at a college party, and that is probably a sign in self of what is yet to come. We meet, we hang out, get drunk, make out some. But that's as far as it goes the first night. She expresses she wants to hang out more and I agree. We hang out again, turns out she's a smoker, I am not. Never have and never will. She also is into drugs, mostly weed, but tried others like E and cocaine. Not my thing either. But we had another drunken night, had sex and it was fun. That morning, we are talking and turns out I am her 32nd partner. She's 18, I'm 21. She had double my number, and I thought mine was high at 16. I tried to get past it and couldn't. So I stopped talking to her. We weren't dating so it wasn't much. I figured shed send a few messages, ask why I don't talk to her. And then eventually find a new sex friend in a week.
weeks pass and she sends me a text during xmas break, she's pregnant and isn't sure if its mine or one of two other guys'. I panic as expected and then after I calmed down we talked. We figured chronologically, it can't be mine. But after all that time, we had developed a friendship and even more. I started to like her, she liked me. Long story short we end up long distance dating since I went back to school and she dropped out to go to a local community college. We talked and all for all through her pregnancy and discovered we loved each other. She had quit smoking because of her pregnancy and planned to stay away from them. Which made me happy. We had our kinks here and there with her past but I got pasted them for the most part.
we go on through her pregnancy and hang out and all but then later on, the distance was getting to us. She wanted me to add the title of girlfriend and boyfriend to our relationship. I didn't want to because I was so far away and knew I would get too attached to her and stop paying attention to my school, I was one semester from graduating. Needless to say it was not my top priority to have a girlfriend. The night of her 21st birthday she gets drunk and cries that I wasn't there, blah blah blah. But then we get in a fight a few days later and she tells me she was actually crying because she was trying to hook up with some guy and he said no. so we break up, I called her some harsh names and didn't speak to her for 8 months.
I graduated and moved home, and got the random idea to talk to her again. We talked and found out she was still single and so was I. we decide to give another shot. But first she had to quit smoking cigs since I didn't and don't want to be around it. She says she's quit and I mostly believe her. And her past, as much as I have trouble with it, I have mostly gotten past it.
the 2 issues I have are these, we for a while thought the baby could have been mine even after discussing it so long ago because the original alleged father, wasn't. And now its kind of sickening to think that I might have been, I got all attached to the idea, then turns out its not. But here is the major issue I am having: the other night we are in bed talking before we go to bed after a nice evening together and we are talking about a guy in my frat I was in with. Turns out, one of the 32 she had sex with... was a him. Not only was he a brother, he was a pledge brother. And I am not one to share girls like a t shirt. I feel that once a close friend has had a girl, she is off limits. Trouble is, I didn't know this about her and now I am madly in love with her, her daughter, her family and her with mine. What do I do?