PhilTayz
Mar 12, 2011, 05:06 PM
Ok from where should I start.
First of all I would like to thank everybody that answered my last question for... answering.
But I've 2 more problems that are really getting me down. I know everybody has problems and they need to solve them by their own sometimes (believe me, I've tried) but these ones are getting really out of control.
1- My self-image.
People have always made fun of me because of my big ears. At first it annoyed me because I thought nobody liked me thanks to them but then in 1 trip to France I realised that I wasn't so ugly as I considered myself to be so I relaxed. But recently that old feeling is back. Way worse. My mates keep calling me "Dumbo" and ugly but I actually don't care about that. What annoys me is that now I can't stop looking at the mirror and do that job for them. When I was walking home I passed by 2 girls who were talking really loud and as soon as I passed by them they started whispering and laughing and that annoyed me so much... and now whenever I can I look at the mirro and start saying to myself "I am ugly; my ears are big; my face is too oval; I'll never get anybody" and stuff like that while I stare at myself to see how I look while I say it.
Is there anyway I can control this?
2- My family.
This one is oubviously the hardest one. Basically, my family doesn't give a damn about me. I know you probably hear this a lot from young kids but stay tuned and you'll find out what I mean.
Since my grandmother died I've been down. I mean really down. I used to solve my own problems by myself and I still trying to but it gets harder and harder. On the last year I was going down on my school performance and they took me to a professional to see if he could motivate me. He said them to reduce a bit on my study time and buy me a boxing sack so that I could relax.
They said they would do that. The hell they did! They didn't do anything. Just told me to study, study and study and threatened me if I didn't.
About a week or too I was really bad and I laid at 7 p.m. when I usually spleep at 11. I think I was actually crying and they saw me doing it. Guess what they did? They sat next to me and said "You have 5 minutes to get up and go studing". Cool, huh?
So the only escape I see is either go out with friends or chat/play with them on my computer. But my parents realised something very quickly: If I'm out with friends, I can't study!
It's OK then. I can go out for 1 hour and then come back home to study. Really this is killing me!There are times where you just want to hear an adult say "It's okay, kid, you'll see." but nothing happens...
First of all I would like to thank everybody that answered my last question for... answering.
But I've 2 more problems that are really getting me down. I know everybody has problems and they need to solve them by their own sometimes (believe me, I've tried) but these ones are getting really out of control.
1- My self-image.
People have always made fun of me because of my big ears. At first it annoyed me because I thought nobody liked me thanks to them but then in 1 trip to France I realised that I wasn't so ugly as I considered myself to be so I relaxed. But recently that old feeling is back. Way worse. My mates keep calling me "Dumbo" and ugly but I actually don't care about that. What annoys me is that now I can't stop looking at the mirror and do that job for them. When I was walking home I passed by 2 girls who were talking really loud and as soon as I passed by them they started whispering and laughing and that annoyed me so much... and now whenever I can I look at the mirro and start saying to myself "I am ugly; my ears are big; my face is too oval; I'll never get anybody" and stuff like that while I stare at myself to see how I look while I say it.
Is there anyway I can control this?
2- My family.
This one is oubviously the hardest one. Basically, my family doesn't give a damn about me. I know you probably hear this a lot from young kids but stay tuned and you'll find out what I mean.
Since my grandmother died I've been down. I mean really down. I used to solve my own problems by myself and I still trying to but it gets harder and harder. On the last year I was going down on my school performance and they took me to a professional to see if he could motivate me. He said them to reduce a bit on my study time and buy me a boxing sack so that I could relax.
They said they would do that. The hell they did! They didn't do anything. Just told me to study, study and study and threatened me if I didn't.
About a week or too I was really bad and I laid at 7 p.m. when I usually spleep at 11. I think I was actually crying and they saw me doing it. Guess what they did? They sat next to me and said "You have 5 minutes to get up and go studing". Cool, huh?
So the only escape I see is either go out with friends or chat/play with them on my computer. But my parents realised something very quickly: If I'm out with friends, I can't study!
It's OK then. I can go out for 1 hour and then come back home to study. Really this is killing me!There are times where you just want to hear an adult say "It's okay, kid, you'll see." but nothing happens...