Ok, so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 months, and its been great. Except for some falls, caused by one of my best friends I had since 6 years. Lately she's been acting all flirty and stuff with him, and she keeps calling him at night, telling him her problems and crying to him. And when I asked her the other day why she calls him in the middle of the night she said that she has no one else to talk to. Lame excuse. A month back, I was at her house and we were talking to him on the phone, she kept hogging the phone and laughing with him and stuff, and I think he enjoys her company more than mine.
I asked her if she had feeling for him, and she said : "I would never do that to you. I know you like him alot," but she didn't say that she doesn't like him. A week or so later we had a big fight cause she always causes problems with me and acts like I'm trying to ruin her life or something. We've been fighting like this for 6 years, but this time she called my boyfriend and told him that I'm changing and that I really didn't like him and that I try to make problems between them ( which is so not true)... My boyfriend and her turned against me for a while, then when my boyfriend figured out what she said was a lie, he called and said he doesn't believe her and stuff like that

We're friends again, but I don't trust her like I did before, And now she's getting really close to him and all, and last night, I called him and he said he couldn't talk. Two minutes later he calls my best friend and they talk for an hour while she complains to him about her life.

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Wow, what a dilemma. Hey if neither of them can respect you enough then they deserve each other, your friend is out of order and she knows it and your boyfriend is basically entertaining it. Your going to have to put your foot down with him and tell him your not happy about this and that you want they're midnight calls to stop and if he can't do this for you then you have a lot of decisions to make regarding your circle of friends and boyfriend..

Thanks :)

But I have talked to him about that and he said that he wouldn't mind me talking to his best friend in the middle of the night. And because he is not in my class anymore, neither is my best friend ( thank god they're we are not in the same class, if we were then fires would flame all over the place) I'm in his best friend's class, and we are kind of close. We talk, and laugh and sit next to each other. But I don't have feeling for him, and I made that clear. I used to like him before my boyfriend... but I don't anymore. And I made that clear to him since he wanted to be my boyfriend, but I told him that I wouldn't do that to my boyfriend and that he should be ashamed because that's his best friend's girlfriend...

Well then that makes you a better person than you best friend! I personally would not be happy if a good mate was calling my boyfriend like this, she has no one to talk to? Aren't you her friend?

There's just one little problem that would give them the green light to continue with this... where they friends even before you got with him? If so then you don't really have a lot of business interfering in their friendship, on the other hand if they met after you got together with him then you most certainly have a lot of business to interfere because its inappropriate, that's just my opinion though, other might disagree.

Nope, she used to hate the living hell out of him before we were together...

Then when I was stupid enough to convince her that he is a great guy, she began flirting with him... I just wanted them to get along.. not this..

You never know how people will react, that's why you have to be careful what you ask for. But it seems to me you invited this flaky friend into this, and you are friends with his best friend, so its seems to me that you and your boyfriend are the ones to solve this together.

Maybe he doesn't mind you talking to his friend, but him talking to your friend makes you uncomfortable, so that's what you tell him, and work out some boundaries of respect and good behavior you can both agree on.

I think this thing with your boyfriend, and friend is showing you some things you need to know about how people close to you really are, and maybe you should do something about it.

I think it starts with better friends, who don't cross boundaries.

Hi I think you have to asks him if there's something going on