Hi
My exgirlfriend and I broke-up about 10 yrs ago, through out that time we be sort of friends. She even stay with me little while. During that time it be hell, she met some guy, who I don't like, not because he dating her, but for something else. We stop talking for while, many time, but we still talk. Anyway they got marry and had kids. But latly things between us have taken a strange turn. She always want me to call her at work, I pick her up from work, she call me, what happening. I'm moving to l.a. soon and she want me to see her when I go. I mean she really want me to see call. So one day I pick her up at the bus stop, and we talk. I told her you know I never got to kiss the bride, at first she waited, than said no, but than said she was kidding, and we kiss, just a kiss. But since than she been wanting to see me and call her, more, what going on? Where is this heading. She know her boy don't want to see us together, but here we are, she just said we'll friend, and I'm leaving so what?

She is married with kids, why are you even fooling with her? Your leaving, what difference does it make what she wants, thinks, or feels? The point is no matter what's on her mind, don't be led into anything that smells like trouble.

And if you have been friends for 10 years then, you should know what she is up to, and if you don't, then just ask her. Why strain the brain figuring out what's on a females mind?

We would both go crazy doing that!!

Wow I think this women is using you like you said she has a husband and kids shouldn't she be looking after them and why is she cheating on her husband for? Like you two have separated for 10 years what's the reason she's doing this is it because she's insecure.. for my opinion you shouldn't even be having this kind of a relationship she has kids and a husband do you really want to be the one to break them up? Over something you two had a long time ago.. your moving to l a right? Why not just let go and enjoy life there's more fish in the sea she's married,kids.. and I don't think you should be the one to accept that like come on.. don't be a fool live your life and enjoy it don't get attached

Listen, lets not put this all on her lap!! You're a big boy, you know exactly what's going on. The question here is are you going to do about it.

You are moving away, do you really want to lower yourself into becoming a cheater with her. 10years is a long time, but maybe its time to let go for awhile until you get moved away and settled. That gives her time to realize that its just not all about her wants, she needs to remember her FAMILY!!

It is a great opportunity to be a real friend to her---JUST WALK AWAY!! Don't answer anymore calls,text,emails.

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I don't know what going on in with my ex. It seen like she what me to be mad at her or just like me to chase her. We been broken up for yrs now. But we are still friend, I guess. During that time she met someone else. They just got marry, right when she had an baby, and now she had and another one. Anyway every so often she want to talk, or get together(ok that fine we are friend)but she only want to meet at her job, or call her there, and it mostly me she want to do the calling. Now while she was with her husband, she had cheated on him even before they got marry, I think it was why they did. (she wasn't sure who the father was at the time) and why she had the second one. Anyway like I said she want me to call her at work, but she always busy, if I said I can't call she always seen upset. She told me about the marry atfer the fact, so I guess we should stop talking, but she said no we are just friend. But if her husband find out about me he wouldn't be happy. Me and him never got alone. We hate each other. Anyway just now I pick her up from work and gave her a ride home, we kiss, just a peck. Because I never kiss the bride, but now she said the she change her name to that of her husband. I will never call her that, she know and agree. But it like she want to get together but she just playing game why. I'm leaving the city, and she want to see me more, but if you are busy why not call me, why do you want me to call. What going on?

Why are you letting yourself play this game with this cheater? Nothing good will come of it. She's married and obviously more than a little bored with married life... you are her next bed buddy. Stay away... far away!

What's going on is that you're being played by a liar and a cheat.
Friend?Don't think so-I suggest you step away from this mess.

I think you know the answer to this... which leads me to believe you aren't over her, are you?

Obviously stay away from her and her drama!

You are way to available, and accommodating, for her drama, and if you have known her for 10 years, why haven't you just asked her what's up with this? Or if you are uncomfortable and confused, why are you still doing whatever she says without question.