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country_chick
Mar 8, 2011, 06:31 PM
Hi, I am turning 18 this month, and I just moved back to my parents house. My dad being a total ******* and mum some what supportive... I am afraid to tell my parents that as of yesterday I figured out I was roughly 2 1/2 months pregnant with my boyfriend of 9 months tomorrow. We have been having sex for awhile unprotected because the doctor told him he couldn't have kids, so sure enough here we go.

I took pregnancy tests the past two months and they both came up negative so I ignored it... so my situation is we both have no jobs and live at our parents houses, I don't because I'm going to the bahamas soon after losing my job there is no point.

We have been thinking about what to do regarding abortion, adoption and keeping it. He is 21, and already has a kid with someone else... but I love his kid. I am just wondering because this is my fault I should deal with the consequence right, and I got some opinions on it and people say that taking the easy way out is sometimes the hardest, but having the kid may be good for us.. I don't know. We are promised to each other and have lived together for 6 months, I know it was fast.. but were quite happy together.

So if any of you guys have any opinions I would love to know.. please... I'm in desperate need of opinions from who are experiencing what I am or have already been through it.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 8, 2011, 07:20 PM
He already has a kid ? And why would you think he could not have another child ?

He lied to you about not being able to have kids ( so basically he has a lot to do about this, don't take all the "blame"
And there is not really blame, anyone 18 should know that having sex can equal having babies

Mom and Dad are going to know, being childish at this point and scared to tell them is not going to make it go away yep mad for a bit but they will get over it.

country_chick
Mar 10, 2011, 09:04 PM
Yes but he had his kid at 18 and then he had an accident that made it so he couldn't have kids, that is why, we were both confused as to how this happened.

And I am not being childish regarding my parents, I am just not sure of how to tell them..

I didn't asked to be mocked, I asked for information on what I should do regarding the situation..

Fr_Chuck
Mar 10, 2011, 09:22 PM
You go in, turn off the TV and talk to them, that is what being an adult is all about, just doing it. There is no "way" to do it, it may be best if he was with you.

But I suspect he either misunderstood about his accident, or he was giving you a story because he did not like or want to use condoms

country_chick
Mar 11, 2011, 10:55 PM
You I guess there isn't a way to do it, I'm sure my mum will understand and I know she can help.

And the doctor told him he couldn't anymore, and now this happens... so we are going to the doctor to find out what is going on now, so he didn't lie, but he isn't one for condoms either.