emaema
Mar 2, 2011, 07:45 PM
Hi,
My husband files a divorce petition in California right before our son's birth. But he didn't serve me with paper work. He told me that it was a by mistake but at the same time he did not want to withdraw the petition. He said just in case I don't perform according to his expectations, he can use the same petition. While my son was just few months old , I left the house. After leaving the house, mu husband visited our son once a month for 2 months. Then he disappeared from our lives without informing us and again reappeared 3-4 months later. Then he visited our son for one year every month. Then I was laid off from my job. I filed the response of his petition after losing my job because I needed child support. As soon as I served him with the response, he vanished again. And 3 months later I came to know that he has quit his job. 7 months later I came to know that he had moved to India. Since I could not find a job I could no longer afford to live in California. I also moved to India and stared living at my parents house. Once he knew that I have come to India , he forcefully entered in to my hose and abused me and my son and I got police report filed in India. Now my husband went back to USA and is asking for child custody and visitation. He is jobless and is staying at his friend's place. Court ordered me to come to court hearing with the child so that they can arrange a visitation with the father. This not fair. Should my son and I keep wandering around just because his father is doing so. Also he relocated to India before I did. On top of that I don't have a job and I don't have money to sustain in California. He had not paid any child support in spite of court orders. Please suggest what should I do. Can't he visit our son in India. Why am I being punished for his non involvement in our son's life. He consider our son just a toy and has never fulfill and fatherly duties.
My husband files a divorce petition in California right before our son's birth. But he didn't serve me with paper work. He told me that it was a by mistake but at the same time he did not want to withdraw the petition. He said just in case I don't perform according to his expectations, he can use the same petition. While my son was just few months old , I left the house. After leaving the house, mu husband visited our son once a month for 2 months. Then he disappeared from our lives without informing us and again reappeared 3-4 months later. Then he visited our son for one year every month. Then I was laid off from my job. I filed the response of his petition after losing my job because I needed child support. As soon as I served him with the response, he vanished again. And 3 months later I came to know that he has quit his job. 7 months later I came to know that he had moved to India. Since I could not find a job I could no longer afford to live in California. I also moved to India and stared living at my parents house. Once he knew that I have come to India , he forcefully entered in to my hose and abused me and my son and I got police report filed in India. Now my husband went back to USA and is asking for child custody and visitation. He is jobless and is staying at his friend's place. Court ordered me to come to court hearing with the child so that they can arrange a visitation with the father. This not fair. Should my son and I keep wandering around just because his father is doing so. Also he relocated to India before I did. On top of that I don't have a job and I don't have money to sustain in California. He had not paid any child support in spite of court orders. Please suggest what should I do. Can't he visit our son in India. Why am I being punished for his non involvement in our son's life. He consider our son just a toy and has never fulfill and fatherly duties.