rocky9999
Mar 2, 2011, 06:03 PM
I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now. She has a rough past with drugs and her mom and sister. I have a daughter, and she has a son a little younger then me. She moved up to Michigan from South Carolina to better her life, and has been clean off drugs since having her son almost 4 years ago. Jan 10th she went on a trip down south with her son to see her mom, sister, and to let her son see his dad. Her mother is still a trainwreck and her sister is always in trouble. Anyway, she was supposed to come home on Jan 28th, but didn't due to a ticket mixup with her son.. It has been steadily going downhill from there. Then Feb 23rd was the next ticket purchase, and she didn't get on the plane because her son was quite sick... (every indication points to that being the truth.)
Well long story short, I was very upset the night before, nothing was making sense, I was suspicious of course of the timing of sickness etc. I talked to her best friend here who didn't think she was coming home. Her aunt and grandma who stay with her were upset with her and the lack of contact, and also didn't think she was coming home. So, I broke up with her. I felt we didn't have a relationship. However. I have never loved a woman as much as this before. I knew she was a package deal and had a rough past going in, and it didn't matter because I loved her for her. I have had a LOT of relationships before, and never gotten as close or as far in as this one. Nothing meant what this does to me, it was the first time I was with my best friend as well as a lover. Anyway, the night we broke up I said some nasty things about her mom, things that I was fed by her and her alone. I only got bad impressions and only saw the pain the mom caused her. She told me she feels the need to be there for them because she loves them... but are they there for her? No-and its hurting her. I laid it all out on the plate for her about how I feel, how I want to be there for her and her son, and how I want our love to grow and progress. Because I know she loves me.
I understand I need to give her space. And I will do that. (Not that it is easy lol)
Here is what she wrote back to my massive paragraph letter haha
I really don't know what to say. I love you. Nd I miss you. But I'm still hurt by a lot of the things you said to me. Im not sure what to do or say. I just need time to think.. I know its been like a week but I've barely had time to think about anything. Ive been dealing with so much other stuff and my emotions are going crazy. If u don't want to wait till I have time to figure out what I want I understand. But I don't know I just really don't. I just keep thinking about all the hurtful stuff that was said.
What do you guys think? I am willing to give it a second chance if she is, and like I said, I'm going to give her space. What I am more afraid of is if I am wasting my time. This is our first big break or big fight in our relationship also.
Well long story short, I was very upset the night before, nothing was making sense, I was suspicious of course of the timing of sickness etc. I talked to her best friend here who didn't think she was coming home. Her aunt and grandma who stay with her were upset with her and the lack of contact, and also didn't think she was coming home. So, I broke up with her. I felt we didn't have a relationship. However. I have never loved a woman as much as this before. I knew she was a package deal and had a rough past going in, and it didn't matter because I loved her for her. I have had a LOT of relationships before, and never gotten as close or as far in as this one. Nothing meant what this does to me, it was the first time I was with my best friend as well as a lover. Anyway, the night we broke up I said some nasty things about her mom, things that I was fed by her and her alone. I only got bad impressions and only saw the pain the mom caused her. She told me she feels the need to be there for them because she loves them... but are they there for her? No-and its hurting her. I laid it all out on the plate for her about how I feel, how I want to be there for her and her son, and how I want our love to grow and progress. Because I know she loves me.
I understand I need to give her space. And I will do that. (Not that it is easy lol)
Here is what she wrote back to my massive paragraph letter haha
I really don't know what to say. I love you. Nd I miss you. But I'm still hurt by a lot of the things you said to me. Im not sure what to do or say. I just need time to think.. I know its been like a week but I've barely had time to think about anything. Ive been dealing with so much other stuff and my emotions are going crazy. If u don't want to wait till I have time to figure out what I want I understand. But I don't know I just really don't. I just keep thinking about all the hurtful stuff that was said.
What do you guys think? I am willing to give it a second chance if she is, and like I said, I'm going to give her space. What I am more afraid of is if I am wasting my time. This is our first big break or big fight in our relationship also.