I am currently living with my Grandparents, a year ago my cousin switched schools, and moved in with us while he finished. It has been so awful living with him since day 1. He is incredibly selfish, he thinks only of himself. He'll do petty things like remove laundry from the dryer so he can put his stuff in, he has taken over my bathroom, and the t.v. room. He's a gamer and has a PS3, he plays video games like every night so I never get a chance to just watch t.v. if I want. Recently I bought an xbox 360 for myself and hooked it up to the t.v. after playing for an hour so I turned of the t.v. to take a break and my cousin went and played his games. The following day as I was heading to the room to play another game he so "kindly" reminded me that when I was finished playing my xbox that it would be nice if I would be things back the way I found them... as in plug in his system and crap. Like he owns the place. Why can't MY system be the one that gets plugged back in when HE'S finished? And it's just little crap like that. Yesterday I got this great plugin air freshner for the bathroom, he of course did not approve. We went through this whole wordless battle of him unplugging it and then me plugging it back in until today he says "oh and by the way it was making me sick I couldn't sleep last night (b.s.), and if you don't keep it unplugged I'm going to throw it away." I told him he would then owe me the 10 bucks it cost, to which he replied "come collect it" I said I would and he replied "bring it". I mean ***? This is my cousin? Why is he being such an ***? I don't get it. Somewhere in that conversation he cursed at me and then followed it up with an "I think i'm asking nicely here". There's really no asking with him, it's only telling. I really really hate him. I don't think I've ever hated someone so much before. Everything he does puts me on edge. He speeds and cuts people off, then turns around and complains about bad drivers. He talks about how people drink too much, and every night he's drinking rum and coke. I don't know what to do about this all. I hate him and I have to live with him. And my Grandparents never take my side on things... they think he is a wonderful guy and blah blah blah. He really isn't. I find myself doing petty little things to get back at him just because I have no outlet for this anger. What do I do? How do I fight the urge to punch him every time I see him? I usually ignore him. I figure if I don't bother with him he won't get to me as much but sometimes even that doesn't work. :( Please help I'm sick of being so angry all the time. It's really having a bad effect on my relationship with my boyfriend and my friendships. Sometimes I find myself just *****ing about him for hours and hours... and I'm like ugh why did I waste this time just complaining? Please help. So sick of the anger but can't seem to let it all go. :(

OK... I get the impression that neither of you is a child, what with driving cars, drinking alcohol, and buying your own gaming boxes. Neither of you therefore needs to be living with relatives, and you are both free to go get your own places. Being young, however, (you don't say how old or what you do in terms of school or work), you would need a cheap rent, which means roommates. And roommates are just like this. So there you have it. Until you make enough money to live alone, you have to deal with people like this.

Part of relationships is knowing how to see the big picture and explaining them. You go on and on with situations, when you need to summarize. This is how you learn to work things out with people. While he does sound self centered and inconsiderate about a lot, I do think that a bothersome smell takes precedence (the air freshener), if I were judge and jury. You two need to sit down and make a list of what bothers you and work on it, and NOT expect your grandparents to take sides. Start with a chart of hours you each get to use the TV and a rule that you each plug in your own equipment. Have a written penalty for going over your hour. Hours for using the washer and dryer. Dividing lines in the bathroom.

I don't suppose either of you chips in on expenses for the house and food and utilities and so on, or chores or shopping or cooking or.. Nah. I'll bet you are both too busy buying games and fighting with each other. Wait until you have to be on your own and this will all seem petty.