Hey everyone,

I have been trying to talk to my girlfriend about her ex boyfriend for awhile now. He keeps texting her and even phoning her and won't leave her alone. The back story is that she went out with him for four and a half years and he cheated on her with a prostitute while she was studying in China. This guy in my opinion is childish and can be comparable to scum that isn't even worth scraping off the bottom of your shoe.

She of course then dumped him but they remained "friends". Just because they share the same group of friends and didn't want to lose any of them by ousting him. I'm not even sure that she told them what really happened.

I have told her numerous times that what he is doing is harassment and that I can help her take care of it. She however insists that she will take care of it herself. Its really starting to get on my nerves and I am not violent and I wouldn't resort to it lest it bring me down to his level, but I am getting to the point where I am considering taking him aside and "talking" to him.

All in all, I just want to know if what he is doing is in fact considered harassment and how exactly I can get him to stop. Or even possibly convince my girlfriend to put a stop to it herself.

I do not think it is all your gf's problem, and you also have some problems.
Your possessive is too strong.
After breaking up, they can be friends, it is not necessary to be completely out of touch.
You should be full of confidence.

How old are you and how long have you been with her? Just me,I relax, and let her handle her own business. If I don't like the way she does it, I leave. The last thing you do is whine about it, because its obviously bothering you, more than it bothers her.

If my GF was on the phone and texting her ex a lot, I would feel the same way. It's OK to remain friends. . But she has to choose "do i continue a relationship by phone" or "do I move on and have a normal relationship with my new BF". ---been there before, I've never seen it work.. . And it always starts drama.