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mickeym001
Mar 1, 2011, 09:01 AM
I meet this guy online the week before valentines day. Now its been four weeks since we talk and I really like him he said he like me too but we had sex the second time we meet up and I really feel sad because I never should have done that in its like we rush I don't want him to think I'm easy. I want more with him then sex. He call me that night when I got home and the next day he text me for a while. Now today the only thing he said was good morning Im scared because I really want to work it out with him and try to be in a relationship with him someone please help me.

southamerica
Mar 1, 2011, 09:23 AM
Were I you, I would respond to his communications and wait to hear from him. If he's growing more and more distant, I would send him a direct, succinct e-mail or text message (or call him) and just say "I like you and I would like to see where this goes. Do you feel the same way?" If he wants out, then there's not much you can do.

Many people get caught up in the moment and rush into physical intimacy before the emotions are truly there. Sometimes that will ruin the chances of a relationship. If that is the case here, then it's a lesson learned. The more we mess up, the less we make those same moves in the future.

I wish
Mar 1, 2011, 10:23 AM
Why not ask him to go out for coffee so that you can guys can. Keep things to a neutral location that you don't end up having sex again so quickly. But until you meet in person again, it's very difficult to clear the air through text messages.

southamerica
Mar 1, 2011, 10:28 AM
Oops, I meant DON'T settle for less respect than you desire. That's the second time today I posted an answer before proof-reading... and I'm a copy-writer in profession.

Tnovak74
Mar 1, 2011, 11:29 AM
I agree with southamerica here, flat out ask him if he's into you or not and as hard as it is, suck it up and move on. Easier said than done, I know from personal experience.

talaniman
Mar 7, 2011, 08:31 AM
I think you make your point in person, just to make sure you both understand each other, and a word to the wise, take time to find out about a stranger through dating before you start having sex, and making for intense feelings that will distract you from seeing his true nature.

Dating is for getting to know a person and have fun while you see if a relationship is even possible. Rushing through this process, can be a disaster, since its hard to build anything when lust is in the way.

Better talk to him, before he thinks you are a booty call that goes on dates.