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kkmonlee
Mar 1, 2011, 07:04 AM
Hello,
I'm 14 yrs old and I had sex with my girlfriend. I used a condom but still she is pregnant. After that my girlfriend took a birth-control pill. I don't know what to do. She's very scared and I don't want to tell this to her & my parents. Please assist me.
Curlyben
Mar 1, 2011, 07:04 AM
Is this the same girl you are talking about here: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/like-girl-558764.html
joypulv
Mar 1, 2011, 07:15 AM
If she thinks a birth control pill is going to turn back the clock, she is sadly mistaken.
There is a 'morning after' pill that causes an early embryo to abort, but it is very different.
She MUST talk to someone sooner or later, and the sooner the better.
If she is afraid to tell a parent, she should tell a school nurse, teacher, coach, clergy person, adult relative, or possibly you and your parents first. She can also find Planned Parenthood in a phone book and call them for referrals to any type of choice (abortion, adoption, or keeping, but she really needs to realize that she is far too young to keep a baby). If she lives near a walk in clinic, she can go there. Confidentiality laws vary by state.
kkmonlee
Mar 1, 2011, 07:18 AM
The girl I'm talking here is my ex now!
She broke up with me because of this incident!
kkmonlee
Mar 1, 2011, 07:19 AM
All right..
Thanks!
I'll see what I can do.
redhed35
Mar 1, 2011, 07:33 AM
Your parents are going to find out sooner then later anyway, better it comes from you then someone else.
Man up now and take responsibility for your actions.
You need an adult to help you now.
Wondergirl
Mar 1, 2011, 07:50 AM
How do you (and she) know for sure she is pregnant?
Did you have sex once, or more than that? How long ago?
Alty
Mar 1, 2011, 05:18 PM
I'd stop dating for a while, obviously you're not ready.
First, make sure that you ex is actually pregnant. Talk to your parents about this, they need to know that they'll soon be grandparents.
Maybe you can get your mom to ask you dog what to do. :)
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-pets-animals/talking-animals-558762.html
Time to grow up and be a man. Time to get a job and pay child support. When you play adult games, you have adult consequences.
Hope your mom talks to the baby the same way she talks to her beagle.
Fr_Chuck
Mar 1, 2011, 08:04 PM
First condoms are far from perfect, they are a lot ( alot) better than nothing but they have a failure rate.
Next a birth control pill afterwards does nothing. If it was a morning after pill, but even they are not 100 percent either. So any and every time you have sex, the girl can get pregnant, no birth control is 100 percent.
And I hope the beagle listens better than the kids did.