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hissweetbtch37
Feb 28, 2011, 09:23 PM
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Husband says he wants a divorce, but he won't leave, he packed his stuff and moved into another bed room, we have been together 8 years, I ask him why he is doing this and he says he doesn't think he loves me,

He got a new cell phone and won't give me the number, but yet he has some one text him when he is here, he only stays maybe 2 nights a week, but yet has his ex text him all the time, says it is about the kid they have together, yea OK, him and his ex hate each other, he stays here maybe 2 times a week, the rest of the week he is gone and won't tell me where he is staying,

He says his lawyer told him as long as he pays 1 bill here he can stay till he gets money to file papers, I love him and don't want him to go, he has also said his lawyer said if I kick him out I will loose everything I have, I also told husband that I will fight him and I have even already went to court house and talk to them about spouse support, well see his lawyer also told him as long as he is in house I can't file, so how do I get him out with out losing what I have worked so hard for

What do I do, I need advice.

joypulv
Feb 28, 2011, 10:01 PM
You need a lawyer, or his lawyer will indeed take all he can get for his client.

That is if he really does have a lawyer and isn't just making it up.
Ideally you both want to save thousands of dollars by getting a no fault divorce if you can in your state, and you have no children together, and no major assets.

I might hire a PI to follow him minimally to see where he's staying 5 days a week.

Get your papers and bank account and all your ducks in a row to be ready.

Keep all your related questions and answers in one thread.

Don't listen to what he says about what his lawyer says.
You are going about this backwards by asking for support first.
You do need to give up on love. He's obviously almost gone.
You should file for divorce first. You don't know what he's doing behind your back.

talaniman
Feb 28, 2011, 10:43 PM
ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to joypulv again.

Get a lawyer to get this divorce started, and get everything you are entitled too. He may even get him out of the house, and child support, or maintanance started.

MARY1223
Mar 1, 2011, 11:59 AM
Seems he's being unfaithful,it probably wouldn't be to hard to get evidense,get yourself some proof, also do not believe everything he says to you about what his lawyers say. Get out there and ask your own questions to your own lawyer ,he's playing you dirty , have no prtty declare war and get him out no matter how much it hurts`.put yourself before him seema he has done the same!

JudyKayTee
Mar 1, 2011, 01:00 PM
Depending on your State whether he's unfaithful or not may not matter. You don't need adultery as grounds to divorce. What you DO need is someone to stop this nonsense, protect your assets, and that person is an Attorney knowledgeable in matrimonial law in your State.