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idkwhattodo
Feb 28, 2011, 05:59 PM
I'm 26 and in October I lost my virginity to a guy I met online. We texted back and forth about meeting up again and never did. We didn't speak for a few months.. and now in February we've been talking about meeting up for some fun again.. sending pics back and forth and being flirty... then yesterday we were about to meet up and then he tells me that he has to be upfront and honest.. he started seeing someone in the past week but he still wants to see me again. We didn't meet up because I had to think about it.. but he said he wants to sometime soon.. but that he'll text me because he's got to be careful and doesn't want anyone hurt. I told him I'd wait to hear from him... but now that I've been thinking about it.. this just feels off.. We never dated.. just hooked up and had sex once.. I don't know what to do here because I am painfully shy and meeting guys is ridiculously hard for me. I've already met him and feel somewhat comfortable with him. Is it totally wrong if I see him again? It's not like he's married but I feel like it's against girl code. Should I say goodbye to this guy and move on or keep the option open?

lilpoppa
Feb 28, 2011, 09:06 PM
OK if he knows he took your virginity, and he's involved with another woman, he just wants to use you as a booty call. I know its tough being alone and shy, I've been in a similar situation. If you just break it off clean it will hurt a little, but if you do like I did in my case and keep on with the relationship it will cause you a lot more pain in the end. Get out before you get hurt worse!

idkwhattodo
Feb 28, 2011, 09:24 PM
He does know that I was a virgin when we had sex. I realize that it's just a booty call and that's fine... but is it awful of me if I want to see him again? I mean morally. I keep thinking how I would feel if I were in this girl he's seeing's shoes.. if she found out about he and I.. This is what's putting me off. I mean, I'm talking to other people and just haven't made plans to even meet another guy yet because of shyness.. but if he and this girl like each other and he's messing around w/ me on the side I don't know.. I don't want to be a homewrecker.

talaniman
Feb 28, 2011, 10:10 PM
You both are single and free. He doesn't want a commitment, or for you to think he will have one with you. So if all you think of is being a booty call, and that's fine, go for it. But don't go blaming him for breaking your heart, or lying to you.

I think you do better working on your shyness and meeting others, rather than settle for letting a guy who ain't that interested, use you for sex. Him, or any other guy. Just because you are shy doesn't mean you have to be a slut either, just because you no longer have a cherry to bust.

idkwhattodo
Mar 1, 2011, 08:34 AM
Whoa, I'm not a slut. I've only been with him. But you are right about settling for a situation like this. I told him I don't want to be a part of that.

talaniman
Mar 1, 2011, 10:22 AM
You will never have to worry about being a slut, if you don't settle for situations like this.

I wish
Mar 1, 2011, 10:35 AM
If you're looking for something more serious than friends with benefits, then don't have sex the next time you meet. Focus on getting to know each other better in person.

Both of you are free to date other people as you are not committed to each other.

lilpoppa
Mar 1, 2011, 06:19 PM
Don't worry about being a homewreker, or responsible for him possibly breaking up his relationship with the other girl, if he's only been seeing her for a couple weeks its not really a committed relationship.