ladybug123
Feb 27, 2011, 06:53 PM
My husband had a one-night-stand at the beginning of our marriage and the woman turned out to be pregnant. She was sleeping around with several people, so we were never certain that the boy born was his. During the time that she demanded money we always simply asked to get a paternity test done, and then we'd start paying no problem. She constantly refused. Which seemed fishy. Now after a year and a half we got am email from her saying if we don't pay $400 this month that she will take us to court next month for more. By court laws we would be paying her $420.
The thing is that we are barely making ends meet. With all of our bills we have barely two hundred dollars left at the end of the month. We cannot afford $400/month or the $420/month. If we go to court and are ordered to pay, we'd have to take out a loan to be able to pay it, or we both would have to get second jobs. Which backfires again because we'd have to pay more in daycare for our daughter. I think it might be possible to talk her down to $250 or $300 but then we'd have to settle on not getting the paternity test. And that has been the only thing we wanted from the start.
So do we settle on our own, without the certainty that the boy is his. Or do we go to court?
The thing is that we are barely making ends meet. With all of our bills we have barely two hundred dollars left at the end of the month. We cannot afford $400/month or the $420/month. If we go to court and are ordered to pay, we'd have to take out a loan to be able to pay it, or we both would have to get second jobs. Which backfires again because we'd have to pay more in daycare for our daughter. I think it might be possible to talk her down to $250 or $300 but then we'd have to settle on not getting the paternity test. And that has been the only thing we wanted from the start.
So do we settle on our own, without the certainty that the boy is his. Or do we go to court?