cerbera100
Feb 26, 2011, 02:16 PM
This is a bit long winded so bare with me,
I met a girl at work 8 years ago, I instantly liked her but never had much to do with her. She had a boyfriend at the time and I too was with someone.
I moved work about four years ago and that was that.
I recently went to a party where I met her again, we got on like a house on fire. We began dating and all was going very well. We went out for 8 weeks but then she text me saying her ex whom is the father to her daughter had been in touch being horrible which had stirred up some very bad memories. She stated she didn't know what to do about us telling me I was the man of her dreams but she didn't feel she was over her past and all the horrible things he had done. When I pressed to find out what he had done she stated she wasn't ready to tell me. I dread to think what he did but he lets just say is not a nice man and talks to a woman like you would not believe.
We haven't spoken or seen each other now for almost two weeks.
I love her to bits and don't want to just give up, we have so much worth fighting for. We have both with idiots before and now how lucky we are to get on like we do. She states she wants to be over her past and doesn't know if we will be together in the future. The problem is she is so stubborn and puts her guard up due to being abused for years by the ex.
I have sent her flowers to let her know I'm thinking about her and keep in touch every few days via text.
I cannot give up on her I have offered to wait until she has sorted it all out but she doesn't answer this question like she feels she can't ask me to do this.
I know I want her for the rest of my life but I feel she needs a wake up call to realise we are brilliant together I want to help her get over her past.
Im giving serious consideration to turning up at her house and proposing to her, is this a bad idea I know we weren't together long but we have known each other for many years. I'm old enough to know a keeper when I see one.
Answers ASAP please as time is ticking and I need to do something soon as this is driving me mad!!
Thanks
I met a girl at work 8 years ago, I instantly liked her but never had much to do with her. She had a boyfriend at the time and I too was with someone.
I moved work about four years ago and that was that.
I recently went to a party where I met her again, we got on like a house on fire. We began dating and all was going very well. We went out for 8 weeks but then she text me saying her ex whom is the father to her daughter had been in touch being horrible which had stirred up some very bad memories. She stated she didn't know what to do about us telling me I was the man of her dreams but she didn't feel she was over her past and all the horrible things he had done. When I pressed to find out what he had done she stated she wasn't ready to tell me. I dread to think what he did but he lets just say is not a nice man and talks to a woman like you would not believe.
We haven't spoken or seen each other now for almost two weeks.
I love her to bits and don't want to just give up, we have so much worth fighting for. We have both with idiots before and now how lucky we are to get on like we do. She states she wants to be over her past and doesn't know if we will be together in the future. The problem is she is so stubborn and puts her guard up due to being abused for years by the ex.
I have sent her flowers to let her know I'm thinking about her and keep in touch every few days via text.
I cannot give up on her I have offered to wait until she has sorted it all out but she doesn't answer this question like she feels she can't ask me to do this.
I know I want her for the rest of my life but I feel she needs a wake up call to realise we are brilliant together I want to help her get over her past.
Im giving serious consideration to turning up at her house and proposing to her, is this a bad idea I know we weren't together long but we have known each other for many years. I'm old enough to know a keeper when I see one.
Answers ASAP please as time is ticking and I need to do something soon as this is driving me mad!!
Thanks