Well I ve been looking for this fils I saw like 14 years ago, its about an old lady who is dying and she is telling this young man robert downey jr her romance , it takes place in an old house , snowy weather, I can't remember more, if you could please help me with this I will appreciate it so much,

It doesn't sound familiar but check out his list of films on imdb http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000375/ . Good luck.