Any advice for a gay guy(me) involved in fifteen year clandestine sexual relationship with a cop who I believed for years to be a confused and in denial bisexual. Found otba few months ago he had gotten married to a woman I know bto be an ivy leaguebgraduate from a wealthy family. This confirmed to me his disorder. I've chosen to keep mum to keep from becoming a missing person. As a hi ranking nypd lt.I'm sure he could get away with anything. More alarming is ms my decision to stay. What is this hold on me? Help!!

Sociopath? Disorder?
You say NOTHING about what you are so afraid of or what makes him a sociopath, or what disorder he has (his marriage certainly doesn't)? Or why you think he would kill you if you left him? Because he's Italian and a cop? How do you know he doesn't think he'd lose his job, be ostracized, and so on? Please. Clarify your reasoning.

Because he's Italian

Italian? Did I miss something? I read it as though he as a NYPD lieutenant.

Oops. Sorry, all Italians.